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    Default Non-"typical" INFPs

    Warm? Fuzzy? Irrational? Sensitive? Vulnerable? Am I the only one calling BS on these being typical INFP traits?

    Maybe I can describe this with an examples:

    I think most, if not all, INFPs possess and use empathy a lot. However, in the case of some person beating a someone else to death, I thought empathy meant you understood/feel both the victim's position and the murderer's position. Instead of selective empathy (which I though was Fe's speciality used to keep the peace) where normally you only feel/care about the victim's position.

    The first empathy leads to the observer becoming emotionally neutral to the situation, since you've felt both positions, unless the observer is only in the presence of one of the people, in which case they normally side with them until they hear/think of the other sides.

    Being neutral then leaves only logic and ethics, which, because of the lack of emotion for either side, make a cold impersonal judgement on the matter. (This empathy isn't used all the time, nor perfect)

    This, along with Fi being so hidden and uncaring about things unrelated to its values, led to INFPs being cold I thought.

    In the case of ISFPs I thought Se lead to their Fi caring more about details and what's going on around them, making them warmer and more emotionally revealing. More "in the moment".

    Ne only distants a person further from the world, making them less revealing of themselves if combined with the apparently most introverted function, Fi.

    On top of this I thought that INFPs were the least practical type generally, meaning in this day and age they learn the hard and fast that details, logic and evidence are very important. This only serves to make them more cold and distant, and view logic and evidence as incredibly important, though their use won't be as natural as it is to T's.

    With Fi's hidden/withdrawn nature, on top of the above, sensitivity and vulnerability soon leave when they learn to protect their emotions and feelings from the harsh world. By harsh I mean not what they were expecting, I don't mean they necessarily expect the world to be nice, supportive and cater to their needs or anything like that.

    My personal experience has shown INFPs to definitely not be clingy, needy, vulnerable (on the outside), overly emotional (on the outside) and all that.

    Am I just being crazy about this or something? I thought INFPs were a hard nut to crack, and what goo comes out when you do is dependent almost entirely on the individual.

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    In my limited, severely flawed observations, I've noticed that INFPs are true to type, just as everyone else, but the descriptions can be exaggerated. How do you feel about Keirsey's "Healer" description?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jack Flak View Post
    How do you feel about Keirsey's "Healer" description?
    Mostly correct. Especially the repeating of reserved and distant.

    "In fact, to understand Healers, we must understand that their deep commitment to the positive and the good is almost boundless and selfless" and all the stuff about community, healing, solving personal conflicts etc.

    I thought that, being based on values, was down to the individual. They may all like to help people and things, but the definition of help, well it varies a lot.

    Also, I thought huge dislike of conflict was a universal INFP thing along with procrastinating (probably because decisions arise from conflict). They don't seem to get mentioned.

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    Quote Originally Posted by erm View Post
    This though: "In fact, to understand Healers, we must understand that their deep commitment to the positive and the good is almost boundless and selfless" and all the stuff about community, healing, solving personal conflicts etc.

    I thought that, being based on values, was down to the individual. They may all like to help people and things, but the definition of help, well it varies a lot.

    Also, I thought huge dislike of conflict was a universal INFP thing, along with procrastinating. They don't seem to get mentioned.
    *shrug* These are all traits I'm aware of. Maybe you or I should write a description and mail it to the internet...tomorrow.

    Most of the INFPs I've known had a comfortable distaste with humanity in general*, though they still don't want to see people harmed. It's the internal sense of, to pick one word, "justice" which rules the INFP (versus the internal sense of logic which rules the INTP).

    *may be why we got along.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jack Flak View Post
    Most of the INFPs I've known had a comfortable distaste with humanity
    What exactly do you mean by this?

    infp.globalchatter.com :: View topic - "The Introvert of Feeling-Type"

    This description of Fi dominants seems the most accurate to me. Sticking to a simple "morality" instead of love, peace, happiness, puppies and whatever else.

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    Quote Originally Posted by erm View Post
    What exactly do you mean by this?
    I mean exactly what I said. In other words, perhaps:

    They don't like the way society works; they have problems with leaders most of the time; most people turn them off with their personalites and actions; et cetera.

    INFP complaints are indeed feeling based, and they tend to be more vague than specific. "I just don't like this."

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jack Flak View Post
    I mean exactly what I said. In other words, perhaps:

    They don't like the way society works; they have problems with leaders most of the time; most people turn them off with their personalites and actions; et cetera.

    INFP complaints are indeed feeling based, and they tend to be more vague than specific. "I just don't like this."
    Well feeling based is a given. Other than that I must just be completely off the mark.

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    Quote Originally Posted by erm View Post
    Well feeling based is a given. Other than that I must just be completely off the mark.
    You might have missed that I said "Most of the INFPs I've known." It wasn't a general description.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jack Flak View Post
    You might have missed that I said "Most of the INFPs I've known." It wasn't a general description.
    Yes, but the reason I made this thread was because so many people seem to agree with your idea and what I'm objecting to.

    I thought wikipedia's description was one of them, though it's been changed to fit my idea more it seems.

    Maybe I'm not so off the mark.

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    Now you have me confused as well. I basically agree with your OP.

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