If someone were to cut me down, I'd want them to be direct and shoot me down until I hear them. If the other person isn't assertive enough, I will run circles of rationalization around them. They have to call me out.
Yes, it's painful, but growth is painful. That's just how life is. And I'd certainly rather know what someone thought about me than not know, no matter how painful it is. At least that way I have some control. I'd rather have real control than a deluded sense of control.