this is especially for any NFP out there, has this idea ever struck you?
what i mean by settling for less is simply: to basically find your dreams is almost impossible to reach, and thus, you just decided to settle for less, less than your dreams & your aspirations (or dreams).
for these past few days, i've been watching this very wonderful japanese dorama, which is an adaptation from a manga "Honey and Clover" (does anybody know?) , and it's basically telling about 5 art students, and how each of them has their own life difficulties & problems, and how they each face it, help each other, and eventually grow themselves. the series (as like many japanese dramas, which is why i like it a lot) often have some intense contemplative & thoughtful questions about Life, work, and relationship.
Of those 5 characters, one of them i can relate the most, because he's sort of like an INFP (I figured) : a shy, quiet, yet also gentle, sweet guy, but he always found it very hard to be settled in something (some job), or don't know what he has to do! he struggled to find on what he has to do, and at one point he even thought of settling for less!
although eventually, at the end of the drama series, he did find what he wants to do (passionate) without any single doubt, also because of help from his best-friend (a girl) !
and then, there's one time during his indecisiveness, his teacher said one thing: "Yuta, in this world, there's probably only one in a million, to be able to do what they love and enjoy it. And it's even less amount of people to be able to do what they REALLY love & have been their dreams!"
basically, he told him to not be indecisive, and perhaps: "settle for less".
don't be too idealistic or 'dream' too much.
Anyway, i've kinda paused at the end of the series, and asking myself the same questions like that one character did : what if, since i often lost interest in anything, especially during the focus & details part, I just decided that my dreams would probably be the SAME at the end: that i probably wouldn't find it will satisfy me very much in the end, ie: in Reality, it's not like what it is in my dreams!
And thus, is it perhaps better to just settle for less, as to not add a burden of ultra-dissapoinments?
or, should i keep dream high (Roosevelt once said that "the future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams", and i guess i still resonate with it, and would really like to believe in it!) and aspire to get my ultimate dreams fulfilled, no matter how "almost impossible" it may seems at first ?
and what about u guys?
have any of u ever felt this?
have any of you finally decided that your dreams is impossible to reach, and thus, you just settled for less ?
and afterwards, did you find yourself more happy, or much miserable than before? (ie: maybe because of neglecting ur true-est passion & dreams?, or you're just mad at yourself, or Life in general?)