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    Quote Originally Posted by niki View Post
    i've learned from somebody in INFP globalchatter forum, & also from many great online articles on "how to eliminate procrastination" , that perhaps the best way to eliminate all of this is to just 'switch-off' our NFP mode, and just turn-on a bit of our shadow-function, namely is: T and S functions. T for thinking thoroughly the process, and S to just think of each small step one by one, and just DO it!
    Yep, or what I affectionately like to call, 'just suck it up and do it. NOW'



    I was the super stereotypical scatter-brained ENFP with all sorts of craziness and ideas and inspiration sparking from me 24/7 but learning to do hard, seemingly meaningless, trivial, etc. work was IM-POS-SI-BLE. If I don't want to do it, it ain't gonna happen. Parents, teachers, bosses have tried and failed. I'm not proud of this fact by a long shot. But I accept it's part of my character and work with it. Intractibility can actually be a great tool and gift sometimes -- just not when you need to be grown person and pay bills, etc.

    And that "whoa, look at me, I'm so scatter-brained I'm a hopeless mess!" can be cute when you're 6 or maybe even 16, but once you hit 'Adulthood' (capital 'A') it's NOT cute anymore.

    I could always be consistent and actually do a pretty good job on a project basis where I was motivated to start something -- like organizing a panel for a conference or a girls basketball team (both which I have done before). But in terms of administration and the long haul? Pure torture. It was really hard for me to be consistent even in practicing music, going to class regularly, making it through McJob after McJob. Eesh.

    As I've gotten older, I've gotten better and better and make a passably good adult and can even fake some coworkers into thinking I'm a 'J'.

    But really, the only way I found to push through it and realize ideas and goals is to just suck it up and do it. I have no sympathy for myself, no coddling, no prancing unicorns or hugs. I guess I let my shadow ISTJ go to TOWN, son! LOL.

    There is no magic pill or button to make things happen for you, nobody who will magically come in at 0 hour and do the work for you or make it better. You might not even have any friends or supporters. It's you. Versus reality.

    So if you want it, do it.

    Honestly, that's helped me out a lot!

    And after the first few painful torturous steps it gets easier and easier. Especially after your hard work and consistency actually have pay offs. Really, that's the biggest motivator -- knowing that doing the work actually gets you results. Like with any habit (for better or worse) the more you do it, the more it becomes ingrained in you and natural.

    The pendulum keeps swinging to extremes but as you work on yourself and develop, it evens out. At least for me, says the ENFP.
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    Quote Originally Posted by CzeCze View Post
    But really, the only way I found to push through it and realize ideas and goals is to just suck it up and do it. I have no sympathy for myself, no coddling, no prancing unicorns or hugs. I guess I let my shadow ISTJ go to TOWN, son! LOL.

    There is no magic pill or button to make things happen for you, nobody who will magically come in at 0 hour and do the work for you or make it better. You might not even have any friends or supporters. It's you. Versus reality.

    So if you want it, do it.

    Honestly, that's helped me out a lot!

    And after the first few painful torturous steps it gets easier and easier. Especially after your hard work and consistency actually have pay offs. Really, that's the biggest motivator -- knowing that doing the work actually gets you results. Like with any habit (for better or worse) the more you do it, the more it becomes ingrained in you and natural.

    The pendulum keeps swinging to extremes but as you work on yourself and develop, it evens out. At least for me, says the ENFP.
    wow!!.....and I have to really say a LOT of thanks to your post!
    it really gives a simple (doh!) yet very insightful & wonderful advices for a "scaterred-brain" NF like me!

    i know it might sounds like a "doh!" thing to SJ folks, especially, but seeing the results of the vote swinging towards the first choice, should tell them of how really HARD it is for us NFs, to ever get things done!

    but whaddaya need to do about it?
    keep complaining?
    no! like you said, these "scattered brain" & procrastination doesn't no longer become a 'cute' thing once you enter the "A" world (ie: Adulthood), or in other words: the REAL-world (is that why i hate my birthday, because i know i'm getting more into that "A" world ? hehe) .

    everybody needs to compromise something(s) when he/she enteres the REAL world. be it SJ, be it NF, be it NT .
    nobody likes 100% of how this world looks like!
    but I guess we can make it at least 70%, or 80% (ie: by fulfilling our dreams or purpose, especially for us NFs ! ) .
    rather than if we keep procrastinate, feeling pessimistic, and "scattered brain" with nothing gets done because of no focus (which is, unfortunately, a must-thing if you want something to be done!) , the percentage could go lower to only 10%, or even 0% (ie: apathy, depression) !

    in the end, which one u choose?

    such a really great post, Cze Cze!
    and i can't thank you more than enough!

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    well... imagination is much better than reality.... there, everything goes the way you'd want them to.
    like cze cze, ideas run through my head 24/7... however, i have the tendency to visualize the whole progress of all the possibilities how the ideas would come into being in my mind... So it means i tend to lose interest after i materialize my ideas in my head :P (what a loser! )

    therefore, my crazy awesome ideas rarely get the chance to actually get materialized in this material world hehhe
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    yaaa im the same way, my way of dealing with it is telling someone im going to do something, have them count on me to do it, and then do it because i feel bad if i dont do it
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    Quote Originally Posted by CaptainChick View Post
    I am big on the process aspect of creating more so than I am on the actual product aspect of it.

    Generally speaking, I hate filtering and committing my thoughts and ideas into a solidified, structured piece of work, it's stifling!!!

    Gah, to be continued...
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    Quote Originally Posted by niki View Post
    wow!!.....and I have to really say a LOT of thanks to your post!
    Awww, you make me blush -- tell me more! (You know how ENFPs love praise!)

    And wow, I actually said something that resonated with someone else! High fives all around for ENFPs helping other ENFPs.

    And 'they' say we're hopeless.

    Quote Originally Posted by IEE623 View Post
    however, i have the tendency to visualize the whole progress of all the possibilities how the ideas would come into being in my mind... So it means i tend to lose interest after i materialize my ideas in my head :P (what a loser! )
    Nah, you're not a loser, you are a master brainstormer. Seriously, people get paid to come up with great ideas. Leave the SJs and NTs (wait, NTJs :P) to make it happen.



    Wait..no, don't leave it them. Let's make our ideas come true, ourselves!

    Really though, I totally get what you're saying and this is also part of the ENFP profile - we can think of things front to back, start to finish, 360 degrees and see exactly how our plan or idea will work out.

    Then 9/10 times we're satisfied with just that.

    We do not need to see our idea tested or put into action to 'know' that it will work or to 'prove' it will work. Just imagining it and realizing it in our heads is [fun] enough.

    "If I imagine it, it's practically happened" -- actually, for us, it really "has" happened in a way.

    Part of it is just being supremely confident that it would work anyway, so why go to all the trouble just to prove it to other people? And why do something when you know you could? We already "know" it will work and we enjoyed thinking it up, so the thrill is used up.

    I think that also adds to how hard it can be for us to actualize ideas to physical reality. A lot of times, there's simply no motivation. What's the point of making something happen that you already "made happen" in your head?

    I'm sure for some other types this seems bizarre...

    But for ideas that you actually WANT to put into action, dear fellow ENFP(s), you can.
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    That sounds like me.
    I tend to think up these 'great' plans and possibilities and ideas but then I'm not disciplined enough to carry it out because I procrastinate a lot.
    When I REALLY want to do something though, I usually do it at the last possible moment and then miraculously manage to finish everything that I need/want to.

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    It tends to be an NP trait in general, although I think the "T" function might give a slight bit of oomph towards actually implementing something rather than just being satisfied with the good vibes. The problem with NTPs is that the T (judging process) is internalized, meaning the T doesn't have to be externalized for there to be some satisfaction. For an ENTP, this isn't horrible since they like to tinker with everything externally (the Ne given free reign) -- lots of activity, just not goal-driven in the Te sense -- but it's very easy for the models to be internalized and for external, specific goals to be ignored and for one to feel powerless over the outside world.

    The two most productive INFPs I know IRL (FineLine, who I met here; and a friend I've known for ten years) have a strongly developed Te that they just call up at a moment's notice. I cannot vouch for how effective they are at FOLLOWING a plan when they're not motivated, but both are very very good at this point in their lives in breaking a large general task down into a series of small implementable steps and seeing the value in it at least. They have to tend to watch not to become too obsessive with the Te thing (i know my friend can obsess over details easily enough and has trouble letting go sometimes), but there is hope for the future.
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    so it's not easy for the NTP folks either, i guess eh..

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    Quote Originally Posted by niki View Post
    too-much imagining how's the END results would be, yet, you only do a very little REAL-work (the "Do" part).
    in other words: you contemplate a lot, even WAY too much (even other people criticize you often because of this!) , with little to almost NO real-work being done?
    I can relate, but not like an INFP. So the lack of action doesn't frustrate me that much, it's more the lack of interest. During a more unhealthy period of my life, I seemed to be using Te all of the time. I realized vision after vision, but none were fulfilling anyway. Were it not for that unhealthiness, though, I would not know sleight of hand, or play the guitar, or have achieved the success in altering my dreams that I sought after, but no longer really have because that skill fades with time more than the others. But a lot of the time, it could be said that I do everything I dream, and many things I dream for about a day. But of course I would love to speak many languages and know everything. So I hit the library and learn a LITTLE physics, a LITTLE religious history, a bit of psychology. And now I know a whole lot of snippits from subjects that are really only vague ideas. I lose knowledge with time easily. I go from feeling like an expert on something to not really knowing it at all six months from the end of the fact. That's frustrating. It's also a bit frustrating to see that I CAN keep my hands moving, but no single important goal is accomplished. A ton of SPARSE knowledge and action amounts to nothing, you have to keep harping away. So find that thing that's actually worth moving for, take your time, and do it! I bet you have the potential complete a long term task better than someone who thinks similar to me does.

    Edit: I twisted your thread backwards. That doesn't mean it's unraveled though. I do share your frustration I think, the circumstances are just a little different. My three closest friends are two INFP's and an INTP, and only one of them acts. She's damn near an activist, but may be the one of the three who needs her alone time most. INTP's are infamous for not acting. Some of them seem almost fearful of leaving the cave, less they may miss out on figuring something out. They are not known for dreaming either, though, so that's not really the same. ENTP's though, at least the three I know well, they act, NO doubt about it. They get stuff done. These three.

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