Would I say that ENFJs are controlling? Yes.
Would I say that it's meant to impinge on others? No.
Trying to control things and restricting people's freedoms is not the same thing. The ENFJs I know try to control things to make things better for others. The only time it becomes negative is when they err and that's true for everyone no matter what type.
Oh and I do know one odd ENFJ who won't control things but will just complain like mad that it wasn't done right... he's special