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    Default ISFP guy + ENFJ girl

    Been told she's crazy about me; I have some feelings for her but I'm at a selfish point in my life and not entirely sure I can commit completely and totally to a serious relationship which I believe is what she wants... I'm conveniently ignoring all the hints she's dropping till my head clears up as to what direction I should head in with her..

    Any input/tips from ENFJ females or guys with an ENFJ s/o will be much appreciated.

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    I had an ENFJ girlfriend. Pay attention for signs that it is DOOMED. Haha, sorry, maybe yours will work out great. In my case, it didn't take very long at all before she was trying to change me, make me more like her vision of what her boyfriend/future husband should be. I saw these signs (the same ones I totally missed with my ENFP ex-wife) but I pushed them aside because she was hot and fun and gave me lots of affection and I didn't want to give in to pessimism. In the end, she's the one who dumped me, the next time she decided to reinvent herself, and I didn't fit in the plan.

    None of that probly helps you in any way, but it's just my experience with one person! I guess I'm just saying be on the lookout for signs that she's more into what you could become than what you really are. Maybe she will not be like that and loves you for you, and if so, that's awesome. But if she does start doing stuff like that, be sure to talk about it right away and not dismiss it, otherwise you could be in for a rough ending.

    I hope things work out for ya. Sorry to be Mr. Doom and Gloom.
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    dude, an ENFJ takes a relationship very seriously. they are romantics as well as social butterflies that ironically don't let people get too close. if she's set her eye on you, take it as a great compliment indeed. reject her and her world ends . seriously though i have a good friend that's an ENFJ and whenever he's in a relationship he becomes a perfectionist, possessive even. it's rare for an ENFJ to let someone get that close to them so they have high expectations. so my advice is simply to treat her right.

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    dude, if you don't think you can commit or hold her to you faithfully, don't bother. you'll only break her heart and that's selfish man. if anything just be honest. tell her what you told us and stick to it. don't let her talk you into a relationship you don't want to be responsible for cause in all likelihood her judgment's a bit skewed. love does things to you.

    if you're not sure of yourself, wait til you are. relationships aren't casual games yo. people can really get messed up.

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    Straight up. You're not ready. Tell her so. Spare yourself the drama.
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    If you need it, don't turn it down. That's all I have to say about that.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jack Flak View Post
    If you need it, don't turn it down. That's all I have to say about that.
    Take your sunglasses off when you say that, cowboy.
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    Quote Originally Posted by PinkPiranha View Post
    Take your sunglasses off when you say that, cowboy.
    Hey I thought I was supposed to stalk you. *stalk*

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jack Flak View Post
    Hey I thought I was supposed to stalk you. *stalk*
    Get back to Disregard's thread where you belong, troll!! *shoos you out of the room*
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    Quote Originally Posted by PinkPiranha View Post
    Straight up. You're not ready. Tell her so. Spare yourself the drama.
    Have to agree with this statement.

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