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    Thanks for your input guys & gals (all of you). It's helped clear my head and I think it's best not to go into this 'halfheartedly'.

    Good day.

    Mo

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    So, the lovely ENFJ girl 'dumped' me as a pal in the first direct declaration she made of her affection for me...

    I really don't know how to respond... Ah... matters of the heart are a complicated thing.

    Look, I'm sorry but this isn't going to work out. I don't know how it came to be but I've started feeling for you more than I should and I can't really ignore it any longer. I can tell that you don't share my feelings. You should know better than to hide the truth from me because trying to spare me is only putting off the pain... Well, maybe it's my fault to have ever imagined that someone as nice as you might be interested in me. When I think back, it sounds insane. I don't want to lose you, believe me, but I'll have to get away from you sooner or later.

    Please, try to understand. I'm very sorry that it has to be this way.

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    Quote Originally Posted by OperaLover View Post
    Look, I'm sorry but this isn't going to work out. I don't know how it came to be but I've started feeling for you more than I should and I can't really ignore it any longer. I can tell that you don't share my feelings. You should know better than to hide the truth from me because trying to spare me is only putting off the pain... Well, maybe it's my fault to have ever imagined that someone as nice as you might be interested in me. When I think back, it sounds insane. I don't want to lose you, believe me, but I'll have to get away from you sooner or later.
    Two things: One, the bolded part. I don't care for it. It seems emotionally manipulative. No doubt she didn't mean it that way, but it's just not fair to you.

    Please, try to understand. I'm very sorry that it has to be this way.
    Two, she's telling you outrightly what she needs. She needs to get away from you to get her head on straight. There's really no way to respond to that. I'm sorry for you both. I really hate it when a friend leaves ME behind because of their own feelings, but it happens.

    Perhaps it will be temporary exile at most.
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    an ENFJ is really good at reading people and they want people to be the hopeless romantics they are, and there's nothing wrong with that. if you're not interested i guess it's only natural for her to feel this way. what shocks me is that an ENFJ publicly announced her feelings. it's not your fault you don't like her the way she likes you, and that's too bad because she's really nuts for you.

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    agreed

    and relationship wise...RUN

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    Completely emotionally manipulative! My ex-ENFJ boyfriend used to say things like that all the time! Ridiculous. Even though I know they are hurting, and that's why they say that stuff, part of them KNOWS they are trying to use a statement like that for what they want.

    Needless to say, my ENFJ boyfriend criticized everything I did and was incredibly manipulative and controlling. This is not a bash on ENFJs, only the one I was with. And maybe ENFJs and ISFPs are not good matches (regardless of what some websites say...).

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