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  • They are emotionally immature.

    58 31.18%
  • They just don't understand how feelers make decisions.

    90 48.39%
  • They confuse emotion with the MBTI definition of feeler.

    96 51.61%
  • They have an irrational fear of empathy.

    27 14.52%
  • They lack social skills.

    28 15.05%
  • They're big meanies!

    38 20.43%
  • Feelers are simply better at resolving conflict and dealing with their emotions

    10 5.38%
  • Feelers demonize thinkers in private instead of openly.

    25 13.44%
  • I'm a feeler and I think feelers suck too.

    10 5.38%
  • Other.

    39 20.97%
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    Glowy Goopy Goodness The_Liquid_Laser's Avatar
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    Default Why do some thinkers demonize feelers?

    I've been on these forums for a while and it seems like every month or so I see some thread asking why feelers suck or why we need feelings or something like that. (And that is not even counting the ones started by BlueWing.) On top of that even outside the forum I see people complain about feeling type behavior more than vice versa. As a thinker I have to admit that I don't really understand my own kind on this issue, so I thought I'd come to the NF forum, i.e. those who understand people the best.

    So feelers, please give me the straight dope. Why do there seem to be a lot of thinkers that demonize people with a feeling preference? Is it lack of socializing, confusion about MBTI, irrational fear of empathy, or something else entirely? Also why do fewer feelers seem to return in kind?
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    I think "Feeling" is faulty nomenclature. People associate it with emotions and irrational emotionalism.
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    I second Cafe's approach.

    Conceptually, most link the term with irrationality and/or a fragile intellectual state held forever captive by unpredictable, naked passion.

    Then again, most people are stupid.

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    I think it's a combination of a lack of maturity, and a mis understanding of MBTI. I'm not saying I totally understand it, I have a long way to go in both regards to maturity and understanding. At the same time I think their are feelers who demonize themselves based on these misconceptions. And I think their are thinkers who have an issue with a feeler realizes that it's not a good idea to demonize all feelers.


    of course I could be totally wrong.
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    that is all

    i dunno what else to say so

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    Bwa ha ha, thank you!

    Ironically, a true thinker would really be looking at feelers dispassionately and acceptingly rather than feeling negative emotions about feelers - apparently emotions such as disdain, fear, dislike, aversion, annoyance, etc.

    Interesting you picked the word demonize. I don't know how deeply you thought about your word choice, but it is suggestive to me of projecting their disowned and distorted shadow onto feelers.

    I wonder, though, if it ever works the other way. Do feelers ever act out thinker fantasies? (I guess that's another thread/poll.)

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    When individuals are unwilling to acknowledge their responsibility in their state discontentment and their power to secure their own happiness, then they will be a source of radiant negative energy.

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    Quote Originally Posted by disregard View Post
    When individuals are unwilling to acknowledge their responsibility in their state discontentment and their power to secure their own happiness, then they will be a source of radiant negative energy.
    Ah that's what other individual's are for. To guide them possible ways out of discontentment
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    1) They're lame
    2) We're an easy target
    3) They confuse Feeling with feelings

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    Sounds like we have got some things to work out then
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    Quote Originally Posted by SquirrelTao View Post
    I wonder, though, if it ever works the other way. Do feelers ever act out thinker fantasies? (I guess that's another thread/poll.)
    Yes.

    Quote Originally Posted by phoenix13 View Post
    3) They confuse Feeling with feelings
    Also yes. Drives me crazy.
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