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  • They are emotionally immature.

    58 31.18%
  • They just don't understand how feelers make decisions.

    90 48.39%
  • They confuse emotion with the MBTI definition of feeler.

    96 51.61%
  • They have an irrational fear of empathy.

    27 14.52%
  • They lack social skills.

    28 15.05%
  • They're big meanies!

    38 20.43%
  • Feelers are simply better at resolving conflict and dealing with their emotions

    10 5.38%
  • Feelers demonize thinkers in private instead of openly.

    25 13.44%
  • I'm a feeler and I think feelers suck too.

    10 5.38%
  • Other.

    39 20.97%
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  1. #31
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    Quote Originally Posted by Maabus1999 View Post
    I would interject that it is because N and S are the PRIMARY way your personality thinks, processes, and communicates, which then effects the rest of your personality tributes. If you don't have the same starting base, it is hard to connect in any other way at times. It appears foreign in an uncomfortable way.
    I agree.

    N's are also a minority so we may have bias against society.
    Thems S's. They's breedin' like rabbits.
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    I am enjoying reading this. It's refreshing to hear mature attitudes towards differences in stye.

    Bottom line for me? It's a matter of good mental hygiene.




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    Quote Originally Posted by entropie View Post
    Quite some good sentence, you can connect with some others topics in life aswell.
    heh heh... realized that only after you pointed it out... the serendipity of ambiguous wording?
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    BTW -- LOL, Carebear and I are like survey answering *twins*! ^^ Read results.

    I think the survey choices answer in part the full answer.

    Honestly, in terms of forums, the interwebz attracts a lot of disenfranchised people. Hahahahaha. Or rather, people with an axe to grind, who seek refuge, etc. etc. etc.

    It also attracts a lot of young folks, people who are still developing their social skills, still figuring themselves out, still growing up basically.

    And it especially attracts a lot of youngish single NT males.

    SO basically add that all up, and you'll get kids who are pissed off at bossy 'Fs' and people IRL who they feel set upon them with irrational emotionally expressive ways. They want a soothing place where they don't have to deal with this kind of person or really kind of interaction, where the quiet and order of online communication strips everything to the logic and predictability and safety of words and methodical ideas.

    Yes?

    No?

    I just liked typing that, I was in the middle of doing writing exercises, sorry.

    So in other words, the forum attracts a good portion of NTs who basically rail at the reality of RL and how ill-equipped they feel with dealing with 'emotional bullies' and energy wasters.

    But IMHO, the animosity against 'F' is very misplaced. Along the lines of what peopel said, confusing cognitive function Fe/Fi with 'unadulterated emotional outbursts and tantrums'. Self-work would go a lot more towards making the 'F' haters more confident and better able to interact with the world, including all those crazy emotive expressive types.

    FWIW, I don't like whiners, martyrs, the moody, emotional bullies, etc. either, however honestly I find IRL 'F' and 'T' is just as likely to be one of the above.
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    I think so as well, CzeCze. Any personality type can be maladjusted - it's an equal opportunity deal. Wacko brain chemistry and child abuse show no favorites. And for genuine satisfaction in living all personality types will require fine-tuning over the years of changes.

    I've spent nearly all my time since membership exploring INFP Global Chatter and am delighted to meet so many others whose minds work similar to mine.

    Too much of a good thing can become bland after a while, and in spite of a few warnings to beware of the lack of manners which can manifest itself here, I've decided to visit more frequently and enjoy the diversity.
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    It's because very emotional people sometimes don't respond to reason, which leaves us helpless when dealing with them. It's that simple I think. E's, S's, and J's have tendencies that I don't like so much either, but it doesn't mean I don't like people with different mbti functions than mine.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Night View Post
    I second Cafe's approach.

    Conceptually, most link the term with irrationality and/or a fragile intellectual state held forever captive by unpredictable, naked passion.

    Then again, most people are stupid.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Anja View Post
    Edit: And hey, St. Cloud!
    Yo, Mankato! How's life down under?

    We've got pretty good Minnesota representin' around here (in quantity, if not quality).

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    Eh, I think thinkers who are opposed to feelers are underdeveloped or immature, and therefore regard their own feeling shadow as a source of animosity. That, plus they tend to misunderstand 'feeling' as 'extreme, over-the-top melodramatic insanity'.

    But this was probably mentionned earlier, I'm just too lazy to read the entire thread.
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    I am hardcore T and my conclusion is this.

    I do not get along with Fs too well in real life because I am too cold and dispassionet for them.

    But why would I attack them?

    Even in the case that thinkers are right they can't do anything about it.
    (I don't count neuroscience)

    Feelers are feelers and they will stay feelers even under pressure, which is probably creating even more feelings then it is normal.

    From logical point of view there is a good probability that by beign more open and friendly towards them, you will push them more towards the T.

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