I was asking whether was normal to some INFPs to behave like an ESTJ to cover up they weaknesses in front of other people.
In my opinion it's way easier to fit in if you behave like an ESTJ.
I've known a girl that since childhood was a total INFP until she got to middle school.
When I met her back in high school she was totally changed.
Whenever she was around other people behaved pretty much like a sort of ESTJ/ENTJ, so much that was almost impossible to tell she was an INFP unless you met her at home in front of a cup of hot chocolate, some dramas and her fat cat.
When I was at school she would always nitpick about every single mistake I made or pointing out and try to correct my goofiness and messy way of doing stuff.
She was almost like a severe guide to me and even though being around her made me feel uneasy and uncomfortable, she was extremely helpful.
She said I needed something that keeps me closer to the ground, otherwise I can fly away with the wind.
Sometimes she would be as sweet as she originally was, but there were years in which this change was almost absolute and I almost couldn't stand to have her around at all.
Then I got closer to her and started to meet her at home, just the two of us. And she was another person. We sleep under a huge pile of clothes and cat food after we had a cheese cake at 4 AM. She would complain about people and say that she likes to just sit in her room watching movies or reading without the need to see anyone else.
Even though seems to be a pretty down-to-earth and secure person, but she is the exact opposite.
When I told other INFP friends that don't know her as well as I do that she was an INFP too they didn't believe me.
So, do you know other people you suspect they are INFP but tend to behave differently?
Could this be why we are so much less than all the other types?
Do you think INFPs are more ashamed to show their weaknesses than most other types? Maybe cause our strong points are considered to be more ''weird'' or ''unnecessary'' by society?
I think it is good to be able to learn to be more practical, clean and decisive, but I think that my friend tried so hard all the time, that when she got home exploded in all her destructive INFPness and found it hard to be stable at all.