I am an uncomfortable leader (!) and was wondering how other INFP's handle positions that require the following:
1. having to tell someone else what to do
2. having to impact someone negatively or make someone else uncomfortable
3. having to disagree with people, sometimes publicly
4. setting a path and everyone following you down that path, even when you might not be sure that path is the right one
5. delegating work
I am sort-of ok with a committee-type situation where I lead or guide a committee, since this can be more 'group-like'. However even then, factions of the group can start heading down the wrong path and you have to go rein them in. Again, not so comfortable. What typically happens is, I delay the confrontation and think carefully about it, then I say something in a stern but polite way, then regret it and dwell on it for half a day.
There is the option of simply being a follower who also does everything, while a more natural leader calls the shots. I'm considering quitting my volunteer position because of the stress. But I'm worried that the whole thing will fall apart.
Edit: Just because I'm uncomfortable about leading doesn't mean I'm a bad leader. I think I do have a lot of good leadership qualities. I am super dedicated and am not in it for my ego. I am considerate with the people I work with and we function as a team. I rarely point fingers.
I think it's the 'authority' part that makes me feel uncomfy and those times when you are forced to exert it.