I usually know all of the popular people, I tend to be one of the popular people, but I still end up on the outside. I would much rather talk to Varelse, and those like her, than those like myself.
Bottom line, even if I've been part of an "in crowd," I rarely ever felt like I was part of that crowd. I seem so likable (arrogance, sorry), and people usually respect me, but things seem to end there. I don't tend to get very close to others, but I'm really not sure that such is my fault.
It would seem that it isn't since I put so much effort into others, but that leaves me unsure of why it is that others (in general) don't seem to put half as much effort into me. Alas. Such is trying to understand human relationships, yes?