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    So what's the verdict on this? Is it an "E" thing or an "S" thing?

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    But, yes, I much rather *be* alone than *feel* alone, so I do end up spending a lot of time by myself.
    Whilst they batted (with an imaginary bat) and bantered (drunkenly - totally lacking adroitness and cleverness in reply), I chatted with British coworkers about eyewear... for like 80 bazillion houuuurssss.... to wear glasses or contacts... oh me, oh my, what a perplexing dilemma...

    Should have stayed home instead... rarrr.

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    ENXXs kind of throw a wrench into the whole extrovert theory, especially ENXPs.

    ENTPs and ENFPs lead with Ne which can be just as interested in ideas/abstracts as well as people. So if the people you are with refuse to stimulate the Ne's desire for cool abstract/funny/strange patterns/ideas/stories etc, then you will naturally shut down your lead function.

    Alot of ENFPs and ENTPs come off as introverts simply because they arent wildly sharing their leading function with the world...possibly because of living with S's their whole life who have taught them to shut up hahaha.

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    it's totally natural man.

    i withdraw all the time. i also don't get along with S types normally, except for a certain few. i dunno, embrace it. you learn to balance yourself out that way.

    i noticed when i try to make an effort to balance out my personality traits i come off less as an enfp, and appearing more introverted is one of those.

    but yeah, i actually like being alone. it's when loneliness kicks in that i start losing it and i begin desiring some sort of interaction.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Rachelinpa View Post
    So, I am an ENFP, I think. But every so often, I get in these situations where I feel like I must be completely wrong because I feel so introverted in comparison to the people I am around.

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    This weekend I went with my ISTJ roommate and his friends and coworkers to a Phillies game. We started tailgating at 3 PM and didn't end up leaving the park until about midnight. Ordinarily, I think this is something I would enjoy, but I think perhaps the combination of being hungover from the night before, not knowing anyone very well and having nothing to really "do" for hours and hours before the game exhausted me. BUT! This surprised me about myself -- Self-proclaimed Extrovert!

    Thing is, I had nothing to contribute to the conversation! I have never been surrounded by so many ESTJs, ESFPs, ESFJs and ESTPs in my life!! Absolutely NO Ns! And ALL extroverted!

    So, I was like thinking to myself that all I would need is just ONE connection to make the whole day change for me. I felt like such a loser cause I just sat in the lawn chair by myself, watching the guys toss around a football, but seriously, I was so bored of talking about concrete stuff for so long and answering questions about what I do (versus who I am). Misery! And, it wore me out! Yet, if I was talking about what interested me, I think I could have done it all night long!

    The whole event was such a puzzlement to me in regards to my actual identity. I feel like a total extrovert when I'm around people I know or even people I don't know who are either Ns or who I have a connection with (or take a special interest in me). But in situations like this, I am like a complete introvert!

    Soooo the question is, other ENFPs, are you like this also? Is this an ENFP thing -- we become "introverted" in situations where we are outnumbered by ESs? Or, do you figure out a way to join in and get over the need for N-like conversation? Or, do you think I'm actually an INFP? aaahhhahaa. Personality crisis!!!

    Don't worry! You're not alone =D I get introverted in conversations about stuff that I don't think is worth talking about too. I know I'm not an INFP because I'm just so sure about my Extraverted iNtuition
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    Quote Originally Posted by Babylon Candle View Post
    ENXXs kind of throw a wrench into the whole extrovert theory, especially ENXPs.

    ENTPs and ENFPs lead with Ne which can be just as interested in ideas/abstracts as well as people. So if the people you are with refuse to stimulate the Ne's desire for cool abstract/funny/strange patterns/ideas/stories etc, then you will naturally shut down your lead function.

    Alot of ENFPs and ENTPs come off as introverts simply because they arent wildly sharing their leading function with the world...possibly because of living with S's their whole life who have taught them to shut up hahaha.
    That's a really good answer to the OP.

    From my own experience and from what I read/hear from other ENFPs it's quite common for us to feel alienated in social situations which is dominated by a lot of mindless S. Especially if one is not really in the mood for too much action/sensing.

    I kept wondering about the exact same thing until I read somewhere that ENFPs are nicknamed "the shy extroverts".

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    Quote Originally Posted by Rachelinpa View Post
    So, I am an ENFP, I think. But every so often, I get in these situations where I feel like I must be completely wrong because I feel so introverted in comparison to the people I am around.

    Example:

    This weekend I went with my ISTJ roommate and his friends and coworkers to a Phillies game. We started tailgating at 3 PM and didn't end up leaving the park until about midnight. Ordinarily, I think this is something I would enjoy, but I think perhaps the combination of being hungover from the night before, not knowing anyone very well and having nothing to really "do" for hours and hours before the game exhausted me. BUT! This surprised me about myself -- Self-proclaimed Extrovert!

    Thing is, I had nothing to contribute to the conversation! I have never been surrounded by so many ESTJs, ESFPs, ESFJs and ESTPs in my life!! Absolutely NO Ns! And ALL extroverted!

    So, I was like thinking to myself that all I would need is just ONE connection to make the whole day change for me. I felt like such a loser cause I just sat in the lawn chair by myself, watching the guys toss around a football, but seriously, I was so bored of talking about concrete stuff for so long and answering questions about what I do (versus who I am). Misery! And, it wore me out! Yet, if I was talking about what interested me, I think I could have done it all night long!

    The whole event was such a puzzlement to me in regards to my actual identity. I feel like a total extrovert when I'm around people I know or even people I don't know who are either Ns or who I have a connection with (or take a special interest in me). But in situations like this, I am like a complete introvert!

    Soooo the question is, other ENFPs, are you like this also? Is this an ENFP thing -- we become "introverted" in situations where we are outnumbered by ESs? Or, do you figure out a way to join in and get over the need for N-like conversation? Or, do you think I'm actually an INFP? aaahhhahaa. Personality crisis!!!
    Exclamation marks everywhere and laughing "aaahhhahaa." You're so ENFP.

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    Thanks for all the helpful responses!!

    I feel like I can FULLY embrace being ENFP now.

    YAY!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Rachelinpa View Post
    Whilst they batted (with an imaginary bat) and bantered (drunkenly - totally lacking adroitness and cleverness in reply), I chatted with British coworkers about eyewear... for like 80 bazillion houuuurssss.... to wear glasses or contacts... oh me, oh my, what a perplexing dilemma...

    Should have stayed home instead... rarrr.
    Oh my goodness. I'd rather stab myself in the eyeball (hypothetically) then listen to such idle chatter (and I've heard a lot of it which results in zoning out most the time).

    Just thought I'd add cause I couldn't not comment on such an atrocity happening to a fellow N, here's a hug for your troubles .
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    Feeling is primarily a process.....that imparts to the content a definite value in the sense of acceptance or rejection. In the same way that thinking organizes the contents of consciousness under concepts, feeling arranges them according to their value. Feeling, like thinking, is a rational function, since values in general are assigned according to the laws of reason...
    (Carl Jung, Psychological Types, Chapter XI - Definitions)

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    I've always thought I was INFP, but I'm now starting to think I am ENFP. I pretty much fit the description of both, and depending on the situation and who I'm around I will float between ENFP and INFP.

    When I was a teen we used to take the Personality Plus test in church a lot. I always came out as a Sanguine Melancholy. Basically an extroverted introvert. The leaders always told me that that couldn't be accurate and I was really a Melancholy Choleric.

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