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    Ask away....I'm quite honest haha

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    You'd be the first Fe-dom Enneagram 8 I've heard of. I want to know more but I don't know where to start.


    What wing are you?
    How do you tend to act around people?

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    I'm actually a Type 8 with a 2w3.
    Around others I am usually a bit of a jokester and I am very direct and honest about my feelings and opinions, good or bad. I also tend to talk before I think, and this doesn't always end well, even though what I say is almost always well-intentioned. I definitely aim to protect the "underdog" in most situations. I always stand up for my beliefs, too. Around my family, I can have a quick temper, and it is very obvious to everyone if I am upset. I too often take my stress out on them. Also, if people are telling me about their problems, I get really personally invested in their issues and get sort of "aggressively helpful," because if I think I know how to fix their problems, I really push them to follow my advice.
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    What's the obsession with "bringing out the best in..." trying to claim that's what you're doing, forcing it onto others even when they aren't interested, then using that line of BS to try to push in your own beliefs?

    What's with the sappy, overly emotional BS? Why the need to constantly repeat it, and to ruin moments of happiness by stepping in and saying something stupid?

    What's with the obsession with "being there for others," constantly claiming you're there for others, and constantly trying to make it seem as though you're there for others, as you do nothing but add stress and annoyance to their lives?

    What's the obsession with this inspirational "discovered this person and made them into something" garbage, especially the part where nothing actually happened but you constantly annoying them while trying to bring more attention to yourself while making claims that you're such a wonderful person?

    What's the obsession with thinking you're clever and with constantly laughing and claiming you can slyly get others to do the dumbest things when the only thing present is constant annoyance, harassment, and you continually forcing in BS claims that they "have such great potential, but.." and that you're concerned for them and are only try to help them do what's best? How can you then expect to not be seen as annoying, full of it, and always getting in the way with the same BS?

    What's the obsession with repeatedly saying how well you know everyone, and how good a handle you have on who everyone is, even though there's only the same stupidity repeating endlessly as you make it clear your view on who others are is very one-dimensional? There are repeated claims of open-mindedness and awareness of what others are, but the only thing actually present are your constant repetitive claims of being the one that knows who everyone is, and of being the only one that does, as you do nothing but continually try to tell them who they are, who they clearly should be, and everything else that makes it clear that you have no idea.

    Why the insistence on hiding your shit, the shit you have in mind, and all this other garbage behind constant claims that you are just trying to help everyone and that you're concerned for others?

    How could you do all of these things, force your shit on others, then manage to claim yourselves victims and continually say that no one appreciates or acknowledges what you're doing? How could you make all those claims, then expect to not be seen as being full of it?

    "Oh, that's sooooo amazing!"

    But all there is to be heard is another patronizing remark said at the worst possible time, loaded with endless bullshit that does nothing but shit on anything that could've been replacing it with more BS.
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    Quote Originally Posted by baccheion View Post
    What's the obsession with "bringing out the best in..." trying to claim that's what you're doing, forcing it onto others even when they aren't interested, then using that line of BS to try to push in your own beliefs?

    What's with the sappy, overly emotional BS? Why the need to constantly repeat it, and to ruin moments of happiness by stepping in and saying something stupid?

    What's with the obsession with "being there for others," constantly claiming you're there for others, and constantly trying to make it seem as though you're there for others, as you do nothing but add stress and annoyance to their lives?

    What's the obsession with this inspirational "discovered this person and made them into something" garbage, especially the part where nothing actually happened but you constantly annoying them while trying to bring more attention to yourself while making claims that you're such a wonderful person?

    What's the obsession with thinking you're clever and with constantly laughing and claiming you can slyly get others to do the dumbest things when the only thing present is constant annoyance, harassment, and you continually forcing in BS claims that they "have such great potential, but.." and that you're concerned for them and are only try to help them do what's best? How can you then expect to not be seen as annoying, full of it, and always getting in the way with the same BS?

    What's the obsession with repeatedly saying how well you know everyone, and how good a handle you have on who everyone is, even though there's only the same stupidity repeating endlessly as you make it clear your view on who others are is very one-dimensional? There are repeated claims of open-mindedness and awareness of what others are, but the only thing actually present are your constant repetitive claims of being the one that knows who everyone is, and of being the only one that does, as you do nothing but continually try to tell them who they are, who they clearly should be, and everything else that makes it clear that you have no idea.

    Why the insistence on hiding your shit, the shit you have in mind, and all this other garbage behind constant claims that you are just trying to help everyone and that you're concerned for others?

    How could you do all of these things, force your shit on others, then manage to claim yourselves victims and continually say that no one appreciates or acknowledges what you're doing? How could you make all those claims, then expect to not be seen as being full of it?

    "Oh, that's sooooo amazing!"

    But all there is to be heard is another patronizing remark said at the worst possible time, loaded with endless bullshit that does nothing but shit on anything that could've been replacing it with more BS.
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    7w6 - 2w3 - 8w7 sx/so

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    Quote Originally Posted by baccheion View Post
    "Oh, that's sooooo amazing!"
    Well it is!

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    What a sad and bitter person
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    Quote Originally Posted by baccheion View Post
    What's the obsession with "bringing out the best in..." trying to claim that's what you're doing, forcing it onto others even when they aren't interested, then using that line of BS to try to push in your own beliefs?

    What's with the sappy, overly emotional BS? Why the need to constantly repeat it, and to ruin moments of happiness by stepping in and saying something stupid?

    What's with the obsession with "being there for others," constantly claiming you're there for others, and constantly trying to make it seem as though you're there for others, as you do nothing but add stress and annoyance to their lives?

    What's the obsession with this inspirational "discovered this person and made them into something" garbage, especially the part where nothing actually happened but you constantly annoying them while trying to bring more attention to yourself while making claims that you're such a wonderful person?

    What's the obsession with thinking you're clever and with constantly laughing and claiming you can slyly get others to do the dumbest things when the only thing present is constant annoyance, harassment, and you continually forcing in BS claims that they "have such great potential, but.." and that you're concerned for them and are only try to help them do what's best? How can you then expect to not be seen as annoying, full of it, and always getting in the way with the same BS?

    What's the obsession with repeatedly saying how well you know everyone, and how good a handle you have on who everyone is, even though there's only the same stupidity repeating endlessly as you make it clear your view on who others are is very one-dimensional? There are repeated claims of open-mindedness and awareness of what others are, but the only thing actually present are your constant repetitive claims of being the one that knows who everyone is, and of being the only one that does, as you do nothing but continually try to tell them who they are, who they clearly should be, and everything else that makes it clear that you have no idea.

    Why the insistence on hiding your shit, the shit you have in mind, and all this other garbage behind constant claims that you are just trying to help everyone and that you're concerned for others?

    How could you do all of these things, force your shit on others, then manage to claim yourselves victims and continually say that no one appreciates or acknowledges what you're doing? How could you make all those claims, then expect to not be seen as being full of it?

    "Oh, that's sooooo amazing!"

    But all there is to be heard is another patronizing remark said at the worst possible time, loaded with endless bullshit that does nothing but shit on anything that could've been replacing it with more BS.
    Why do you store up so much rage just to release it into the wind on some completely unrelated internet thread, rather than take the hint and direct this anger against the party causing it and defend your ground in the process?

    Kinda makes you a pushover.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Garab View Post
    I'm actually a Type 8 with a 2w3.
    Around others I am usually a bit of a jokester and I am very direct and honest about my feelings and opinions, good or bad. I also tend to talk before I think, and this doesn't always end well, even though what I say is almost always well-intentioned. I definitely aim to protect the "underdog" in most situations. I always stand up for my beliefs, too. Around my family, I can have a quick temper, and it is very obvious to everyone if I am upset. I too often take my stress out on them. Also, if people are telling me about their problems, I get really personally invested in their issues and get sort of "aggressively helpful," because if I think I know how to fix their problems, I really push them to follow my advice.
    This is easily the thing I like least about ENFJ's. How do you handle it when someone has said clearly - I don't want your help?
    I like to rock n' roll all night and *part* of every day. I usually have errands... I can only rock from like 1-3.
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