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    Default ENFP or INFP?

    This is about an old acquaintance.

    He had a very unique personality. My closest guess for him is XNFP, but he was an ambivert and I can't conclude if he was INFP or ENFP.

    Description of his character:

    - was very physically active in school days and played many sports as a hobby, extreme sports included (he was very good at them)
    - works or has recently worked as a snowboarding instructor
    - stubborn
    - was a hyperactive kid
    - had a hard time keeping himself out of trouble as a kid
    - fairly (but not extremely) talkative
    - restless, had difficulties sitting still for longer periods of time
    - always has had many friends
    - emotionally guarded, even with close friends
    - was very popular with the opposite sex but didn't seem to care about it much
    - had a blatant dislike for authority
    - artsy, was good at drawing and spraying
    - was intelligent and an underachiever in school
    - blunt
    - impolite
    - non-conformist in every possible way
    - had a mysterious vibe going on
    - was actually hilarious in his manners and behavior but would always take himself very seriously
    - one of those people that you just can't read/can never know what they're thinking
    - would always hang exclusively with non-comformist people who had similar hobbies and interests as him, listened to same kind of music, etc.

    Thoughts?

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    How often does this friend of yours need to be around other people?

    Does he seem to be very engaging and passionate one day and aloof the next?

    Does he give you the feeling that you are just one of his many favorite people at times?
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    Sounds pretty extroverted to me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Arctic Hysteria View Post
    How often does this friend of yours need to be around other people?
    He liked to be around people a lot but he also needed alone time. A classic ambivert.

    Quote Originally Posted by Arctic Hysteria View Post
    Does he seem to be very engaging and passionate one day and aloof the next?
    That was him, spot on. His moods were able to affect him/change his behavior so much and so often that he almost seemed to be at least 3 persons in 1 and before I saw him any given day, I could never know which one of the 3 it was going to be.

    Quote Originally Posted by Arctic Hysteria View Post
    Does he give you the feeling that you are just one of his many favorite people at times?
    I wasn't that close to him, we were just acquaintances, not friends. So I can't tell if his friends felt like that.

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    From my observation, ENFPs enjoy their alone time too, but not for too long, while INFPs certainly do enjoy the company of others, but the very specific "others".
    INFP 4e3 can give the ENFP vibe sometimes.

    I think the biggest difference between ENFP and INFP is that, ENFPs enjoy getting to know a lot of people and bouncing thoughts off of many people as they learn and shape their ideas and values through interactions, while INFP spare our energy for only a few people we can really identify with, and we learn through observation.

    ENFPs appear warm, inviting, and very curious, yet do not believe for one second that just because they seem that way with you, they have a permanent place for you in their heart. On the contrary, most INFPs seem cold, aloof and uninviting at first because we don't think it's worth wasting our energy on folks whose values and feelings do not not match with ours first and foremost (Fi-dom).
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    Quote Originally Posted by Arctic Hysteria View Post
    INFPs certainly do enjoy the company of others, but the very specific "others".

    INFP spare our energy for only a few people we can really identify with, and we learn through observation.

    Most INFPs seem cold, aloof and uninviting at first because we don't think it's worth wasting our energy on folks whose values and feelings do not not match with ours first and foremost (Fi-dom).
    This sums him up quite nicely. INFP it is.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Arctic Hysteria View Post
    ...INFPs seem cold, aloof and uninviting at first because we don't think it's worth wasting our energy on folks whose values and feelings do not not match with ours first and foremost (Fi-dom).
    That is more of a 4 thing.
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    Quote Originally Posted by PeaceBaby View Post
    That is more of a 4 thing.
    Most INFPs I know are like this. It would take them at least half an hour to warm up with others. For me, it takes up to a few hours.
    But I agree, e9 are less like this.
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    @iHeartCats, when I read your descriptions of him again, I still cannot decide whether he's INFP or ENFP, for I have seen people of each type behaving like the other type at times. Most of my friends would not ever think I am INFP.

    My best friend is ENFP e7, and because of the huge differences between e4 and e7, we can distinguish ourselves easily.
    We both are very idealistic, sensitive, passionate, non-conformist and restless, we both strongly value our freedom, we both act aloof and distant and disappear from others often, we both are very emotionally guarded, we both are popular with the opposite sex.
    However, she's much more social than I am. And while she pays lots of attention to what people are up to and what can catch her attention, I pay most attention to what people are feeling or thinking and where my help is needed. She's constantly on the go, just experiencing, absorbing, while I'm constantly seeking the patterns of the world to see where I could belong.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Arctic Hysteria View Post
    @iHeartCats, when I read your descriptions of him again, I still cannot decide whether he's INFP or ENFP
    I still appreciate your thoughts on this very much, since I was looking to find what distinguishes those two types.

    Having taken everything into consideration, he seems to be a Fi-dom since he didn't really want to get to know people whose values and feelings didn't match with his, and socialize with them.

    Also, he had an overall dark personality, which makes me conclude that he was an ambiverted INFP, since ENFPs are supposed to be warm and cheerful at least sometimes, and he was never like that (like I said I wasn't close to him, but we were on a same a class for years, and I saw him on average twice a week through a period of 6 years which is a lot, and also sometimes in my free time, and I saw how he behaved around other people).

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