Hi This is mostly directed at other ENFPs:
I was wondering if it's just me or if other ENFPs feel like me: I've been noticing (and a psychologist friend told me) that I have problems dealing with negative emotions. She told me (and I agree) that I bottle up too much and don't tell other people when I'm not feeling alright. The point is, it's either too little or too much: I bottle up for a while, and then I explode (!). I cannot communicate my emotions (mostly negative) effectively. I was wondering if other ENFPs are like this, or if it's me.
Maybe it's because I grew up with an ENFJ mum who saw my Fi as something childish that needed controlling, I was always made to feel like there was no place for my feelings, because the group is more important. So I've always felt like I'm much more sensitive than other people, and I'm embarrassed of this, so when Im not feeling well because someone is not making me feel comfortable, I just try to ignore and pretend everything is just fine, there is no problem, and that my feelings are just "in the way". And then it reaches a point that I can't take it and I find the whole situation "unjust" (I feel this feeling a lot) and I explode, usually I shout and am very assertive and Te-like. And people get surprised, because I let them walk all over me for a long time and said nothing...
Any solutions? Or just...does anyone (ENFP) sympathize? What is the problem? How can an ENFP be more assertive (without being aggressive)?