My ENFP daughter brings a glow into the room with her when she arrives. Lots of charisma.
She doesn't appear aware of it. And shrugs when I've mentioned it to her.
There was a time when she was younger that she used her charm to manipulate others and she was very good at it. I think that she has released that habit with time - using others to her advantage. But she is very capable of influencing life events to benefit herself and those around her. I think that is a great deal of her appeal.
There was a time when others' attraction to her became a nuisance to her and she became avoidant, disappearing from peoples' lives for several months at a time. I think it was just overwhelming to her and she hadn't learned how to handle it well.
She prefers the company of several soul-mate type friends but everywhere she goes it seems like people know her and holler out to her.
I've actually opened my checkbook, with pictures of my kids in it in places and had the cashier glance over and say, "Hey! I know her!" And I think, "I imagine so."
I started noticing this about her when she was a toddler shopping with me.