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    Seriously Delirious Udog's Avatar
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    Things that put me at ease when I'm with other 'S's:

    Having common interests, and talking about them.
    DOING shared interests together.
    Shared sense of humor.
    Shared sense of values. (Don't fake these, though. It's ok if our values differ, but it's good idea to defer any value conversations until we know each other better if you goal is to build comfort.)

    Oddly enough, sharing your problems with us if we give you a window... which as an INFP I will constantly be doing. My empathy is one of my greatest gifts, and if someone shares themselves with me, and let's me empathize with them, I relate to them.

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    yeah, being yourself helps. don't try too hard to please an INFP, I think that sincerity matters the most.

    If you want to put them at ease I guess conversation would be easiest, but it usually takes them awhile to open up so you need to be patient. Once they do, they're quite interesting to be around.

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    i agree witht he consensus here. be yourself but be friendly. i think he'll come around.

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    space + INFP = happy INFP
    "Honest differences are often a healthy sign of progress. "

    "You must not lose faith in humanity. Humanity is an ocean; if a few drops of the ocean are dirty, the ocean does not become dirty."

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    Yeah i agree, when i feel someone is tryin to make me feel at ease, it does the opposite coz then i feel bad and i wana let them know that they dont have to try so hard, all that have to really do is jst wutever they would normally do...i wouldnt wana feel like im imposing or anything...and yes being sincere is key, anythin less i can honeslty sense a mile away and it pisses me of...so yh jst be urself and go with the flow...its not like INFP's are a foriegn creature or nything=P we wont cry and hide in the corner or nything jst deal with us normally and dont walk on eggshells round us=)...hope this helps!!
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    Yes, give him space, but more importantly, be calm around him. Honestly, nothing freaks me out more when someone is nervous around me. It makes me nervous, and then I start dwelling on all the different responses I gave, which only makes me more nervous. Eventually I just shut down.

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    If you feel really anxious/awkward about it maybe just tell him? I think INFPs would appreciate the stripped down honesty. At least let him understand why you're talking so much or seem so nervous so he doesn't think it's something else. INFPs can feel just as awkward or nervous so laying out your intentions in front of you (basically what you explained to us), but casually so, might be able to clear some things up and also show that you two can be open with each other.

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    ya if you break the ice with an INFP all goes smoothly IMO.

    this tactic worked beautifully with a good INFP friend i met at work.
    "Honest differences are often a healthy sign of progress. "

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