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    Anyone here the lone NF in their family?
    Yes, and I won't lie: It can seriously suck.

    And, it may not ever get better over time.

    My advice? Find your own tribe. Make your own family from like-minded kindred spirits.

    I'm not saying to divorce yourself from your biological family; just to decide how much together time with them you can handle, establish some boundaries, and stick to your guns.

    PS - as an ENFJ, you might enjoy the following careers:

    Possible Career Paths for the ENFJ:

    * Facilitator
    * Consultant
    * Psychologist
    * Social Worker / Counselor
    * Teacher
    * Clergy
    * Sales Representative
    * Human Resources
    * Manager
    * Events Coordinator
    * Sales Representative
    * Politicians / Diplomats
    * Writers
    (from: Careers for ENFJ Personality Types)

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    Yes, I'm the only NF.

    My mom is an ISTJ, and my dad is an IxTJ (for the life of me I can't decide which one he is). My brother is an INTP. I've never gotten into any fights with my parents, really, although little flareups have happened with my Dad a few times. For quite a while it bothered me that I didn't have any 'connection' with them, but I guess I've come to terms with that and we get along just fine. My brother and I have always understood each other pretty well, though, even though I can't say we have actual conversations that often -- he's WAY more introverted than I.

    I guess..I grew up in an environment where emotion wasn't expressed, really at all, and neither were opinions. Actual conversations didn't happen much either - mostly just chitchat, and 'How was your day?' stuff. I think this may have caused some issues with my esteem and sense of self, as I didn't really feel that I was in an emotionally 'nurturing' environment growing up, which would probably have done me a lot more good. But, it is what is is, and it's not like it was anyone's fault, really. I just feel that I had to do a helluva lot of 'catch-up' work on my own in my 20's, especially related to interpersonal skills and emotional stuff.

    I often think though that this must be the case with everyone, no matter what your type -- that there's going to inevitably be some element of how you were raised that was lacking from what would be ideal for you. I don't see how it could be otherwise.
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    My entire family is made up of ES types. I've always been the odd one.

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    my immediate family is pretty diverse:

    father; ESFJ 2w3 sp/so
    mother; ISFP 9w8 sp/sx
    brother; ENFP 7w6 sx/so

    looks like we're actually rather balanced, since my feeling v. thinking preference is about 55% to 45%, which puts me fairly close to being a Rationalist. ironically, i usually only have trouble with my older brother; he acts more like an unhealthy ESTP. anyway, is living with an ESFJ really that intolerable? i suppose i am just lucky that my father never put great pressure on me to conform to existing social standards. in fact, i see how hard he works to please us, so I want to be a "better" son for him. Perhaps if he were an ESTJ, this would be a completely different story.
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    Quote Originally Posted by MrRandom View Post
    Wow. I can relate to both of you very strongly.

    ISTJ father, ESFJ mother, ESFJ sister. And then there is me, the INFJ son. Trust me, it hasn't been very easy. I moved out to live on my own as soon as it was reasonably possible. Life has been easier since.
    Wow man, Dad=ISTJ, Mom=ESFJ, Sister=ESTJ, Me=INFJ.

    How weird dude. That's cool though. I definitely have a different thought process compared to everyone else. My dad and sister are very irrational, ill-tempered, and impatient. My mom is very naggy and persistent. And there I am, just sitting around and watching my dad and sister bicker about everything and then my mom chimes in with some extra nagging. Worse case scenario for me is being in a car with all three of them in a traffic jam. <--- no joke.

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    i'm the only F in my family. ISTJ mom (6w5), INTP dad (5w6), ENTP brother (3w4?).

    i've learned to repress my Fe so much that i find myself to be more of a thinker than my mom, though.

    it's too bad being so sensitive, but i think of being a male NF as a problem in society, not just in my immediate family. plus i'm a 9.

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    Yeah, I'm a lone NF as well.

    ISTJ Dad, ISFJ Mom, and INTJ brother.
    I did have some conflicts with my folks growing up, but it's all okay now and we love eachother and all that. Learning about MBTI helped some, as I was at least able to understand everyone's motives a little better (mine included).

    Some free advice- use knowledge about types as a way to improve communication, not as an excuse for the lack of it.

    Good luck to you.
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    my mom is an ESFJ
    my Dad is an ISTJ
    Sister = INTJ
    2nd sister = ESFP
    brother = ESFP
    me = INFJ
    =) it is not that easy but i love them they are my family

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    has anyone noticed the pattern that a ESFJ and ISTJ parent are making INFJ children?

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    Quote Originally Posted by tENnisFJ View Post
    has anyone noticed the pattern that a ESFJ and ISTJ parent are making INFJ children?

    INFx, to be exact
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