For the most part, I can relate to the INFP's side in the way that skylight described. I chalk it up to being least so instinct variant- and very occasionally (not often), with certain individuals, it does make me feel like a part of their people collection (I think Qlip is the one who has said this? because so variant folks tend to spread themselves thinner across more people) when I wish they craved more one-on-one time with certain individuals like I do myself. But I wouldn't try to guilt someone out of their own needs to accommodate my own- and if someone has a lot of friends and a full schedule, it's because it's serving some need they have. The very notion of someone trying to guilt another person out of their needs makes me feel very prickly- I realize it's not done with bad intentions, but I personally have a very short fuse for it. Overall the thing in the op is the kind of thing I'd file under 'incompatible'- just like the "having a crush on someone that's already taken"- and I'd move on.