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    The habitual apologies might be a compensation for the general irritability in a particular culture? I apologize more than I should and will spend some time thinking about why. Maybe part of it is when someone expresses sadness, irritability, or anything negative and it seems you are supposed to say something, "I'm sorry" seems as good as anything. For me there is also a concern about people crossing into the realm of conflict. Once people get fighty it's hard to bring them back. A quick sorry might help nip it in the bud? Also, there are times it's not a personal apology but an expression of sympathy. Confusing the two could be pretty funny actually.
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    Cause we're genuinely sorry?

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    I often find myself explaining to others that even though I know their situation isn't my fault, it still sucks, and I'm sorry it sucks. There are many reasons to be sorry.
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    Quote Originally Posted by something boring View Post
    I often find myself explaining to others that even though I know their situation isn't my fault, it still sucks, and I'm sorry it sucks. There are many reasons to be sorry.
    Yes, this is it. As for me, the more "sorries" you get out of me, the more I care for you and your prickly little feelings.

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    It all depends on how well I know a person. If it is a new acquaintance and I express a strong opinion that is followed by a strong reaction on their part I will usually appeal to their side of the argument and try to form some kind of common-ground.

    I guess the same could be said with someone I know better but I will take a a definite stand on what I believe while still recognizing and acknowledging the positive ideas about what they offer.

    What Synapse says is a good indicator of why a lot of NF's do this:

    Probably to cover my bases just in case anything I've said is taken the wrong way and definitely is a form of apology for action or thereof lack of action. It is I think our insecurity that gets us self conscious after the fact when in fact its unnecessary. I use the term less often these days and notes the times I do and analyze why should I be sorry for something when I've done nothing to be sorry about.
    All comes down to avoiding argument / confrontation. If an NF is constantly apologizing to you there is a good chance that they deem you a person that could be hurt by what they said- even if the chance is small.

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    I'm really sorry, but I don't have time to answer to this thread...

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    If I say anything at all, I'll support it pretty fully or abandon ship if it seems like a conversation is a hopeless hunt. If I shock someone with something I said, it is what it is. I give a little squint followed by googly eyes and carry on.

    That said, I don't say sorry afterward unless it's something accidental like mowing you down like a scarecrow with my truck.

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    i think it's a curse. I really really really really really really do.
    In no likes experiment.

    that is all

    i dunno what else to say so

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    ThatGirl told me to post this:

    "Sorry, I'm just not really sure."




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    Quote Originally Posted by Bubbles View Post
    So, in conclusion, yes, I'm an apology smurf.
    I actually still have those tendencies to a certain extent.

    When Ne tells you how a particular conflict, no matter how minor, can possibly be your fault, Fi's gonna make you do something about it

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