the only point i was trying to make was that Fe and Fi process feelings differently. Fe holds value judgments to an external standard, Fi an internal.Fi is more inclined to have internally founded morals and values that they apply to everyone including themselves, i.e. acting in revenge is not okay, the nature of one's intent is far more important than the action one happens to make....
And through these processes one becomes more empathetic to others and their particular circumstances. Because they assess a person and a person's deeds, by and through imagining how they themselves would be, feel and act if they were that other person, i.e. limited/defined by that person's environmental/genetic conditions and given these perceptual conditions, how "they" would react/respond/feel when subjected to whichever particular circumstance is in question.
so when Fe imagines the value judgments others are making, they compare them to what they see, what their current surroundings are, etc.
when Fi imagines others' value judgments, they compare them to their OWN standard for feeling. Fi can't escape its users value set. this is where N comes in. Ne can try out different ways of interpreting someone's actions until one of those interpretations allows them to empathize. Fi is like a keyhole, Ne has to make the key that fits.
an Fe user, on the other hand, has changing premises for their values all the time. each change in the environment changes their value set. so when they're in an environment with someone else, the Fe user's values are automatically changed to better fit the average in the room, which means they automatically take on some of the values of the other person. Ni doesn't have as much work to do for Fe as Ne has to do for Fi.