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    Any other NFs here who strongly dislike being watched ?

    This is an issue I've been having since I was 16 or so (34 now). Whenever I catch someone gazing at me it makes me more uncomfortable than it probably should. I've read here and there of people a bit like me who'd wish to be invisible at times. When there's many people I also get a strong nagging sense of being watched, even when I'm not. I saw a psychiatrist years ago and he said I have a primal fear of being judged by others. Probably a very common fear also, but one that is very annoying to me and one I'll probably never fully get rid of. Compared to most people I think I'm ridiculously self-conscious/self-aware. I often wish I wasn't.

    So...could this be an NF thing, or an INFx thing ?

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    Yes. If I'm doing something, I'm usually pretty aware that my Pe-Dom way is not whatever other people might deem "the right way". So, effin back off and if the end product sucks then you can say something about how I did it. Lol.
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    Can't. Stand. It.

    Almost as bad as when people read over my shoulder.

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    I find staring uncomfortable, but I can usually ease away from it with jokes. If I'm performing, I don't see anyone at all.
    If I'm doing something intricate/complicated, it distracts the hell out of me.. not by fear of judgement, just their very presence feels.. suffocating.
    I'll grin & tell the person to stop hovering.. no. really. Go.

    Works every time.
    03/23 06:06:58 EcK: lex
    03/23 06:06:59 EcK: lex
    03/23 06:21:34 Nancynobullets: LEXXX *sacrifices a first born*
    03/23 06:21:53 Nancynobullets: We summon yooouuu
    03/23 06:29:07 Lexicon: I was sleeping!



    04/25 04:20:35 Patches: Don't listen to lex. She wants to birth a litter of kittens. She doesnt get to decide whats creepy

    02/16 23:49:38 ygolo: Lex is afk
    02/16 23:49:45 Cimarron: she's doing drugs with Jack

    03/05 19:27:41 Time: You can't make chat morbid. Lex does it naturally.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lexicon View Post
    I find staring uncomfortable, but I can usually ease away from it with jokes. If I'm performing, I don't see anyone at all.
    If I'm doing something important, it distracts the hell out of me.. not by fear of judgement, just their very presence feels suffocating.
    I'll grin & tell the person to stop hovering.. no. really. Go.

    Works every time.
    Hovering is different from being watched, though, right? I cannot stand it when someone invades my personal space, but I could care less about being watched. I think I like it actually.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Honor View Post
    Hovering is different from being watched, though, right? I cannot stand it when someone invades my personal space, but I could care less about being watched. I think I like it actually.
    Watching feels like hovering, to me. They may not even be that close.. they could be across the room. I'd still feel as though they were encroaching on my personal mental space if my concentration is on something else that needs to be done. If they're in the same room but doing their own thing, not watching me- their presence is totally fine, of course.
    03/23 06:06:58 EcK: lex
    03/23 06:06:59 EcK: lex
    03/23 06:21:34 Nancynobullets: LEXXX *sacrifices a first born*
    03/23 06:21:53 Nancynobullets: We summon yooouuu
    03/23 06:29:07 Lexicon: I was sleeping!



    04/25 04:20:35 Patches: Don't listen to lex. She wants to birth a litter of kittens. She doesnt get to decide whats creepy

    02/16 23:49:38 ygolo: Lex is afk
    02/16 23:49:45 Cimarron: she's doing drugs with Jack

    03/05 19:27:41 Time: You can't make chat morbid. Lex does it naturally.

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    People are always looking at me, too. Makes it even worse.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Nights and Days View Post
    People are always looking at me, too. Makes it even worse.


    I'm sorry.. it had to be done.
    03/23 06:06:58 EcK: lex
    03/23 06:06:59 EcK: lex
    03/23 06:21:34 Nancynobullets: LEXXX *sacrifices a first born*
    03/23 06:21:53 Nancynobullets: We summon yooouuu
    03/23 06:29:07 Lexicon: I was sleeping!



    04/25 04:20:35 Patches: Don't listen to lex. She wants to birth a litter of kittens. She doesnt get to decide whats creepy

    02/16 23:49:38 ygolo: Lex is afk
    02/16 23:49:45 Cimarron: she's doing drugs with Jack

    03/05 19:27:41 Time: You can't make chat morbid. Lex does it naturally.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Nights and Days View Post
    People are always looking at me, too. Makes it even worse.
    yeah same here. I envy people who look ordinary. I always get noticed. For good or bad. Something about my eyes.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Honor View Post
    Hovering is different from being watched, though, right? I cannot stand it when someone invades my personal space, but I could care less about being watched. I think I like it actually.
    are you an NF ?

    I hate hovering too.

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