User Tag List

First 31112131415 Last

Results 121 to 130 of 156

  1. #121
    lurking.... Wyst's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jul 2008
    MBTI
    INFJ
    Enneagram
    4w5
    Posts
    1,662

    Default

    Pssht, we think we're AWESOME!!!!
    Yyyeeaaa, that's better.

  2. #122
    Senior Member sketcheasy's Avatar
    Join Date
    May 2008
    MBTI
    ENFP
    Posts
    101

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by Wyst View Post
    Yyyeeaaa, that's better.

  3. #123
    Senior Member Martian Manifesto's Avatar
    Join Date
    Aug 2008
    MBTI
    INFJ
    Posts
    180

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by phoenix13 View Post
    Clearly, INFJs make outstanding parents. You and I are lucky.
    They can also be very demanding though, in regards to personal mastery. Personal mastery sound spiffy, but it can be a bit much. This comes from a good place though and an INFJ defending/aiding their offspring is a supernatural creature.

    Both parents are INFJ, as am I.

    No brothers. Both sisters are SJs. Go figure.

  4. #124
    Senior Member Martian Manifesto's Avatar
    Join Date
    Aug 2008
    MBTI
    INFJ
    Posts
    180

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by CzeCze View Post
    ^^

    Find The Jake??

    Wow. You're back! Or not.

    Good seeing ya again.

    The forum has grown since you've gone -- for instance, we are amassing small armies of INFJs and ENFPs for the impending war.
    I volunteer my services for this war.
    - Me

  5. #125
    Senior Member Martian Manifesto's Avatar
    Join Date
    Aug 2008
    MBTI
    INFJ
    Posts
    180

    Default

    In case anybody cares:

    INFJs are warm and affirming people who are usually also deep and complex. They're likely to seek out and promote relationships that are intense and meaningful. They tend to be perfectionists, and are always striving for the Ultimate Relationship. For the most part, this is a positive feature, but sometimes works against the INFJ if they fall into the habit of moving from relationship to relationship, always in search of a more perfect partner. In general, the INFJ is a deeply warm and caring person who is highly invested in the health of their close relationships, and puts forth a lot of effort to make them positive. They are valued by those close to them for these special qualities. They seek long-term, lifelong relationships, although they don't always find them.



    --------------------------------------------------------------------------------

    INFJ Strengths

    --------------------------------------------------------------------------------


    Warm and affirming by nature
    Dedicated to achieving the ultimate relationship
    Sensitive and concerned for others' feelings
    Usually have good communication skills, especially written
    Take their commitments very seriously, and seek lifelong relationships
    Have very high expectations for themselves and others (both a strength and weakness)
    Good listeners
    Are able to move on after a relationship has ended (once they're sure it's over)


    --------------------------------------------------------------------------------

    INFJ Weaknesses

    --------------------------------------------------------------------------------


    Tendency to hold back part of themselves
    Not good with money or practical day-to-day life necessities
    Extreme dislike of conflict and criticism
    Have very high expectations for themselves and others (both a strength and weakness)
    Have difficulty leaving a bad relationship


    --------------------------------------------------------------------------------

    INFJs as Lovers

    --------------------------------------------------------------------------------

    "To love means to open ourselves to the negative as well as the positive - to grief, sorrow, and disappointment as well as to joy, fulfillment, and an intensity of consciousness we did not know was possible before." -- Rollo May


    INFJs are warm, considerate partners who feel great depth of love for their partners. They enjoy showing this love, and want to receive affirmation back from their mates.

    They are perfectionists, constantly striving to achieve the Perfect Relationship. This can sometimes be frustrating to their mates, who may feel put upon by the INFJs demanding perfectionism. However, it may also be greatly appreciated, because it indicates a sincere commitment to the relationship, and a depth of caring which is not usually present in other types.

    Sexually, INFJs view intimacy as a nearly spiritual experience. They embrace the opportunity to bond heart and soul with their mates. As service-oriented individuals, it's very important to them that their mates are happy. Intimacy is an opportunity for the INFJ to selflessly give their love, and experience it in a tangible way.

    Although two well-developed individuals of any type can enjoy a healthy relationship, INFJ's natural partner is the ENTP, or the ENFP. INFJ's dominant function of Introverted Intuition is best matched with a personality type that is dominated by Extraverted Intuition. How did we arrive at this?

  6. #126
    Senior Member Martian Manifesto's Avatar
    Join Date
    Aug 2008
    MBTI
    INFJ
    Posts
    180

    Default

    ENFP Relationships


    --------------------------------------------------------------------------------



    ENFPs take their relationships very seriously, but also approach them with a childlike enthusiasm and energy. They seek and demand authenticity and depth in their personal relationships, and will put forth a lot of effort into making things work out. They are warm, considerate, affirming, nurturing, and highly invested in the health of the relationship. They have excellent interpersonal skills, and are able to inspire and motivate others to be the best that they can be. Energetic and effervescent, the ENFP is sometimes smothering in their enthusiasm, but are generally highly valued for their genuine warmth and high ideals.



    --------------------------------------------------------------------------------

    ENFP Strengths

    --------------------------------------------------------------------------------

    Most ENFPs will exhibit the following strengths with regards to relationships issues:

    Good communication skills
    Very perceptive about people's thought and motives
    Motivational, inspirational; bring out the best in others
    Warmly affectionate and affirming
    Fun to be with - lively sense of humor, dramatic, energetic, optimistic
    Strive for "win-win" situations
    Driven to meet other's needs
    Usually loyal and dedicated


    --------------------------------------------------------------------------------

    ENFP Weaknesses

    --------------------------------------------------------------------------------

    Most ENFPs will exhibit the following weaknesses with regards to relationship issues:

    Tendency to be smothering
    Their enthusiasm may lead them to be unrealistic
    Uninterested in dealing with "mundane" matters such as cleaning, paying bills, etc.
    Hold onto bad relationships long after they've turned bad
    Extreme dislike of conflict
    Extreme dislike of criticism
    Don't pay attention to their own needs
    Constant quest for the perfect relationship may make them change relationships frequently
    May become bored easily
    Have difficulty scolding or punishing others


    --------------------------------------------------------------------------------

    ENFPs as Lovers

    --------------------------------------------------------------------------------

    "To love means to open ourselves to the negative as well as the positive - to grief, sorrow, and disappointment as well as to joy, fulfillment, and an intensity of consciousness we did not know was possible before." -- Rollo May


    ENFPs make warm, considerate, passionate partners who are generally willing, eager, and able to do whatever it takes to make The Relationship a positive place to be. They are enthusiastic, idealistic, focused on other people's feelings, and very flexible. These attributes combine to make them especially interested in positive personal relationships, and also makes them very able to promote strong relationships in fun and creative ways. ENFPs take their commitments very seriously, and are generally deeply loyal and faithful to their partners.

    There are a couple of difficult relationship areas for the ENFP. The first problem is that many ENFPs have a problem leaving bad relationships. They tend to internalize any problems and take them on their own shoulders, believing that the success or failure of the relationship is their own responsibility. As perfectionists, they don't like to admit defeat, and will stick with bad situations long after they should have left. When they do leave the relationship, they will believe that the failure was their fault, and that there was surely something they could have done to save the relationship.

    On the entirely other end of the spectrum, many ENFPs have a difficult time staying focused and following things through to completion. If they have not focused on their ability to follow through, they may have problems staying in dedicated, monogamous relationships. They are so in tune with all of the exciting possibilities of what could be, that they will always fantasize about a greener pasture out there somewhere. If they are not paired with a partner who enjoys new experiences, or who shares their idealistic enthusiasm, the ENFP may become bored. The ENFP who is bored and who is not focused will be very unhappy, and will eventually "leave" the relationship if the problem is not addressed.

    Since relationships are central to the ENFP's life, they will be very "hands on" and involved with their intimate relationships. They may be in the habit of constantly asking their partner how they're doing, what they're feeling, etc. This behavior may be a bit smothering, but it also supports a strong awareness of the health (or illness) of the relationship.

    Sexually, The ENFP is creative, perfectionistic, playful and affectionate. Their rich fantasy world makes them fun and creative lovers, who usually have new ideas up their sleeves. They whole-heartedly embrace the opportunity for closeness with their mates, believing sexual intimacy to be a positive, fun way to express how much you love each other.

    The ENFP needs to be given positive assurance and affirmation. More than one ENFP has been known to "go fishing" for compliments. They like to hear from their significant others that they are loved and valued, and are willing and eager to return the favor. They enjoy lavishing love and affection on their mates, and are creative and energetic in their efforts to please. The ENFP gets a lot of their personal satisfaction from observing the happiness of others, and so is generally determined to please and serve their partners.

    A problem area for ENFPs in relationships is their dislike of conflict and sensitivity to criticism. They are perfectionists who believe that any form of criticism is a stab at their character, which is very difficult for them to take. Conflict situations are sources of extreme stress to the ENFP. They have a tendency to brush issues under the rug rather than confront them head-on, if there is likely to be a conflict. They are also prone to "give in" easily in conflict situations, just to end the conflict. They might agree to something which goes against their values just to end the uncomfortable situation. In such cases, the problem is extended and will return at a later time. The ENFP needs to realize that conflict situations are not the end of the world. They are entirely normal, and can be quite helpful for the growth of a relationship. They also need to work on taking criticism for what it is, rather than blowing up any negative comment into an indictment against their entire character.

    Generally, the ENFP is a warm and affirming creature who is very interested and able to have an intense, meaningful, close relationship with their mate.

    Although two well-developed individuals of any type can enjoy a healthy relationship, ENFP's natural partner is the INTJ, or the INFJ. ENFP's dominant function of Extraverted Intuition is best matched with a partner whose dominant function is Introverted Intuition. How did we arrive at this?

  7. #127
    Senior Member Martian Manifesto's Avatar
    Join Date
    Aug 2008
    MBTI
    INFJ
    Posts
    180

    Default

    Natural Partners

    --------------------------------------------------------------------------------

    You may be interested in understanding how we came to the conclusion that certain types are ideal for each other. Our type pairing is a result of combining observation, research, and understanding of Jungian psychological type. Observation and research of married couples shows that there is a definite trend in types that are attracted to each other, and in type combinations that have the longest lasting relationships. Our understanding of psychological type helps to see that these types typically have the same dominant function, but with a different attitude.

    In Jungian terms, "functions" refer to the four core traits: Intuition (N), Sensing (S), Feeling (F), and Thinking (T). The term "attitude" refers to the direction of the function, i.e. Introverted (I) or Extraverted (E).

    So, for example, a person with a personality type of ISFP has a dominant function of Introverted Feeling. More specifically, Feeling in the dominant function, and its attitude (or direction) is Introverted. A person with this personality type is likely to be most attracted to, and fit best with, a person that has Extraverted Feeling dominating their personality. Extraverted Feeling dominates the personality types ESFJ and ENFJ. We therefore determine that the ISFP's natural partner is the ESFJ or the ENFJ.

    Our natural attraction to people who share our dominant function, but who use it in a different direction works very well for us. We not only flip-flop the Introverted or Extraverted trait, but we also flip-flop the Judging or Perceiving trait. In this way, the partner that we choose for ourselves will have a very different approach to dealing with the world. If we are laid-back and indecisive, our partner will be structured and decisive. If we are reserved, our partner will be outgoing. For all of our apparent differences, we will share a common vision of what's truly important in life.

    For people whose personality types are dominated by Decision Making functions, (i.e. Thinking or Feeling), their ideal partners will include both Sensing and Intuitive types. Many people have problems communicating effectively with people who do not share their same preference for Information Gathering. So, if you have a very strong preference for Sensing or Intuition, you will need to give the personality type with the same preference a higher value as a likely natural partner. For example, an ISFP who strongly prefers Sensing will work best with an ESFJ, rather than an ENFJ.

    Although we believe firmly that this model works very well to help in finding and maintaining healthy relationships, it is important to remember that it's just a tool. We offer guidelines to help you understand the kinds of things that you value in a relationship, rather than guidelines that you need to follow strictly. Two well-developed individuals of any type can make a relationship work. And work is a key concept here! There is no such thing as an effortless relationship. Don't use this model as an excuse to dump your relationship.

    P.S.: all this stuff is from The Personality Page

  8. #128
    lurking.... Wyst's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jul 2008
    MBTI
    INFJ
    Enneagram
    4w5
    Posts
    1,662

    Default

    lol i know what website you got that from.

  9. #129
    Senior Member animenagai's Avatar
    Join Date
    Aug 2008
    MBTI
    NeFi
    Enneagram
    4w3
    Posts
    1,573

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by Wyst View Post
    lol i know what website you got that from.
    eh me too. there aren't too many good ones to start off with

  10. #130
    Content. Content? DigitalMethod's Avatar
    Join Date
    May 2008
    MBTI
    INTJ
    Posts
    970

    Default

    I'm tempted to say that the more introverted the INFJ is the more attracted to INTJs, INFPs, they will be.
    "The life of the individual has meaning only insofar as it aids in making the life of every living thing nobler and more beautiful."
    - Albert Einstein

Similar Threads

  1. [NF] When ENFPs and INFJs look alike
    By OrangeAppled in forum The NF Idyllic (ENFP, INFP, ENFJ, INFJ)
    Replies: 20
    Last Post: 02-21-2017, 01:55 PM
  2. [INFJ] ENFP parent and INFJ child
    By Immaculate Cloud in forum The NF Idyllic (ENFP, INFP, ENFJ, INFJ)
    Replies: 21
    Last Post: 11-23-2016, 02:42 AM
  3. ENFP and INFJ Relationships
    By highlander in forum Intertype Relations
    Replies: 6
    Last Post: 04-12-2016, 07:53 PM
  4. Video: ENFP and INFJ Friendships
    By highlander in forum Typology Videos and RSS Feeds
    Replies: 1
    Last Post: 10-11-2015, 10:12 PM

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
Single Sign On provided by vBSSO