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    So yeah this ENFJ girl I work with said she had a crush on me today while texting me. Then she was saying stuff like "why don't you love me back", "we would make cute babies together". I'm just kinda like I suppose ENFJ's love playing us ISTP's emotions. Anyways How can I tell her to go take a cold shower without me sounding like a dick?.

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    Are you in Junior High? That's super weird. I think you can definitely tell her to back off.
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    Quote Originally Posted by jixmixfix View Post
    Then she was saying stuff like "why don't you love me back", "we would make cute babies together".
    Are you sure she's not kidding?

    If she's not, that's a little creepy. I guess you should just be direct about it and tell her you don't like her that way. That doesn't seem dickish at all imo.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Chanaynay View Post
    Are you sure she's not kidding?

    If she's not, that's a little creepy. I guess you should just be direct about it and tell her you don't like her that way. That doesn't seem dickish at all imo.
    I think she's kidding we're pretty cool, like friends I know she's serious about liking me but i'm not sure if I see her that way.

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    Quote Originally Posted by jixmixfix View Post
    I think she's kidding we're pretty cool, like friends but i'm not sure if I see her that way.
    Then my advice is you should tell her that. Otherwise she might get the wrong idea if you don't say anything about it.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Chanaynay View Post
    Then my advice is you should tell her that. Otherwise she might get the wrong idea if you don't say anything about it.
    Yeah you're probably right.

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    Yeah, I have this problem with not being 100% clear with where I stand with people (friends, really) because it takes a while for me to build up a definitive feeling, but once I figure it out I realize how selfish I am being. I appear a particular way to a person (friendly and stuff) and I guess people use such external behaviors to determine where we stand, but with me ...it isn't a good indicator. My behavior is more... exploratory, I guess.

    Personally, it would save me the feelings of slight guilt if my behaviors matched my feelings.

    ...Moral of the story:

    I don't know if you're naturally able at using your actions so you can give clear hints, but...

    If you can't do that ...then try saying what's on your mind. Let her know to not read too much into your behaviors

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    Quote Originally Posted by jixmixfix View Post
    I'm just kinda like I suppose ENFJ's love playing us ISTP's emotions.
    We call that 'flirting' here on Planet Earth. Not always work.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Rasofy View Post
    We call that 'flirting' here on Planet Earth. Not always work.
    What planet are you from? That's not flirting that's creepy clingy behaviour.

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    Quote Originally Posted by jixmixfix View Post
    I think she's kidding we're pretty cool, like friends I know she's serious about liking me but i'm not sure if I see her that way.
    Maybe a friend of her sent it as a prank?

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