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    Default Any ENFPs Been in Relationships with ENTJs?

    Man... I just recently ended a relationship with an ENTJ.

    Something from the beginning was very odd that I couldn't understand. Maybe I am just an attention whore, but she had a very cold side that I did not want to believe existed, especially if it came to me!

    I tried to make it work, but in the end, I think part of me thought she was immature in the way she handled things, and being that we are both younger siblings, I had to "beat" her by being more immature than her. Omg, that was hell. I became this pretty evil person I never was in a relationship before.

    There's a CS Lewis quote "In order to slay a dragon, don't become a dragon yourself". I think I failed. Even the break up process was this very immature way of "Im the one who broke up with you" that I felt her trying to calculate, and push into my face when I first suggested maybe we aren't a good match for each other. It is still going on, my gawd. Its like this huge battle, I ended up going back to an ex, who was so much more warm hearted than her... im not even sure what personality type she is... but anyways, I don't want to feel like somoene has to win the "I broke up with you" battle, but i feel like she is leaving me no choice but to think of it that way...

    I dunno, I guess I was wondering if there was anyone else out there who knows about ENFP and ENTJ relationships and how it went.

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    Hmm.

    Do you love her?

    Are you in love with her?
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    Quote Originally Posted by CaptainChick View Post
    Hmm.

    Do you love her?

    Are you in love with her?
    Umm... the last girl?

    There's no way to know, we were only "together" for a month and a half. But I admit I felt more feelings for her at that time point than I did in previous relationships, and I came close to saying it, but I think the girl likes it better when the girl says it first, and I was honestly surprised at myself for almost saying it a few times. but that could have been bc i was rebounding from a previous relationship this time around...

    But I can't say I love(d) her. I just want to stop thinking about this and just feel at peace... I would like to leave the door open for the future tho...

    hey this is pretty therapeutic!

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    No, the ENTJ girl.

    and hell-fuckin' yeah this is, (therapeutic, that is)

    So yeah, why are you writing about the ENTJ girl if you think you are in love with the current old/new girl?

    confuzzled, please help!

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    Wait, you are talking about the ENTJ chick.

    Would you guys argue?
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    Quote Originally Posted by CaptainChick View Post
    No, the ENTJ girl.

    and hell-fuckin' yeah this is, (therapeutic, that is)

    So yeah, why are you writing about the ENTJ girl if you think you are in love with the current old/new girl?

    confuzzled, please help!


    yeah i was talkin about the ENTJ girl in the post I replied to you...

    well... I guess Im thinking about it bc it just happened like in the past two days?

    seriously tho... something was VERY VERY stressful about that relationship with the entj girl...

    and also because this battle for "who broke up with who first" is still going on. I would be okay with just letting it go, but everyone asks me "what happened with you guys" and I feel like I am reliving something bad if I had to tell it the way she wants it to be... i guess she's not letting the breakup be a "thoughtful" breakup, which is what I really wanted...

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    *Why* were you together and *why* did you break up?
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    Oh, and L.A., way to represent!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by CaptainChick View Post
    Wait, you are talking about the ENTJ chick.

    Would you guys argue?
    Well, nah we wouldn't argue. But it would feel like there is some underlying tension that affected what we would do to each other next...

    She told me she hates guys that goes clubbing, and one time I went bc I was kind of getting sick of not feeling like a priority to her... and she called, and like a honest fool I picked up (even tho everyone tells me i should have said i was somewhere else), and she was like "Do whatever you want then!" and hung up and I called like 20 times and I didn't even have fun at the club!

    ever since then it turned into a revenge thing i think... i guess part of me was wanting to see if she liked me as much as my "ex" (who im with now) did, i still felt some sort of loyalty to her, and I was also kind of bothered by the not enough attention thing.

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    Hmm..

    So the ENTJ chick is/was a rebound then, so why the fuss?

    Were you guys sexually intimate?

    And the whole attention thing, that's no good, do you tend to get involved with girls who drown you in it or girls who deprive you of it?

    Personally, I oscillate between dating both (types).
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