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    Quote Originally Posted by Stanton Moore View Post
    I know several INFJ’s. Without exception they all have hidden, odd beliefs. Of course most people do, but their hidden world seems more elaborate and thought through.
    I told this one woman I know that I felt like I had known her for my whole life. She replied without hesitation: ‘That’s because we knew each other in a past life.’ She kept it up too, wanting me to have a past life regression hypnosis session, to see how we relate, because she ‘just knew’. She is also an intelligent professional with a Master’s Degree. She is a therapist.
    My brother-in –law is INFJ. He’s very rational, but really a feeler when you get down to it. He consulted with a healer before he married my sister, to check on compatibility. He is a jazz piano player by profession.
    So yeah, reason on the outside, magic in the center.
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    Quote Originally Posted by greenfairy View Post
    Question #2: Do you think two INFJ's in an intimate relationship would have a telepathic connection? I have borderline telepathic moments with my two (tertiary Ni) ISFP's.
    I can usually fairly accurately tell with 1 look what someone is thinking or how they are feeling.. I don't ever know what questions to ask someone that dont sound trite and trivial so I realize I lean on some kind of mental connection OFTEN.. even if I am not "emotionally invested" in this person and our relationship. I have never thought of this as weird until.. well now.. no one else is like that? This makes sense why people think I'm weird... because I can feel where they are in the heads even if they dont want me to
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    Is it common to feel that you are more selfish than society wants you to be and to worry more than necessary about whether you acted correctly in situations?

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    Quote Originally Posted by greenfairy View Post
    Is it common to feel that you are more selfish than society wants you to be and to worry more than necessary about whether you acted correctly in situations?
    I'm not INFJ, but I've many close INFJ friends and my mom was INFJ.

    Yes, it's very common among INFJs, in my experience. My really close INFJ dance partner friend noted to me, "You seem to have a lot of beautiful woman friends." And in a twist that is entirely alien to me, she had to add, "I hope that doesn't sound too conceited." It took me about a day to realize ... "oh, it would be 'conceited' because SHE is one of my beautiful woman friends." (She's 30, and got carded tonight. The guy ended up looking at the ID, and at her, and back at the ID, and back at her ... you get the idea ... She doesn't even look 30.) This is someone with whom I share a fairly deep bond of friendship, vibing on that Ni. She knows me, she knows I don't think ill of her, she knows that she has my benefit of the doubt ... but she still can't help but doubt herself with me, wondering if she did the right thing, feeling guilty if she decides she didn't do the right thing.

    I kind of feel protective of her because of that. I don't want her feeling that way.

    If you want to know whether someone is INFJ or INTJ, remember that INTJs, like the honey badger, don't give a shit. (Well, we do, but not in the paranoid INFJ way.)
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    INFJs and long term relationships.

    I theory they would be ideal for long term relationships but in practice they seem to fail a lot.

    Are my statistics wrong?
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    Quote Originally Posted by riva View Post
    INFJs and long term relationships.

    I theory they would be ideal for long term relationships but in practice they seem to fail a lot.

    Are my statistics wrong?
    From what I've seen in general all NFs are prone to staying the longest in relationships, even when the relationships are not quite healthy, and I'd give Fe types the advantage over Fi types. XNFJs will stay the longest but once is over it's really over,(door slam much) while XNFP sometimes tend to go into this cycle of breaking up then getting back together, and are more likely to give second chances, believing in the other person potential to change. When the relationship fails in both cases it's the other person fault duh!

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    Quote Originally Posted by riva View Post
    INFJs and long term relationships.

    I theory they would be ideal for long term relationships but in practice they seem to fail a lot.

    Are my statistics wrong?
    Can't tell if your statistics are wrong. Several problems with researching that question here. Are the INFJs here actually INFJs? Are INFJs who would come to this forum representative of INFJs in general? Is there a big enough sample size of INFJs here on which to base your theory? What percentage of the INFJs here actually post and does the fact that they post differentiate them in any significant way that is relevant to your question from those who don't post? How would your results compare to the results of other types or of people in general (some sort of baseline)? Is there even such a thing as an INFJ (tipping my hat to @Mole, here)?
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    Ugghhh. It's so hard to type oneself. My dearest assures me I am INFJ even after taking the Step II Myers-Briggs test giving me INTP. (the t/p were fairly equivocal).

    I guess it just really takes time to figure it out, and people to help you who know about CFT and MBTI. Enneagram can help too, because certain enneatypes are correlated with certain MBTI types.

    Personally I have enough preference with T and P that I can switch around a bit, meaning I won't always F, but I might T, lending me a non-INFJish air. I also am enneargram 7sx which factors in heavily, making me seem non-INFJish but more enfpish.

    In short, MBTI creates these huge categories whereby it is hard to get a handle or draw conclusions much about a certain type with any real usefulness, imo. It would be cool to create another algorithm for studying people and their personalities though, for just this reason.
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    Quote Originally Posted by uumlau View Post
    I'm not INFJ, but I've many close INFJ friends and my mom was INFJ.

    Yes, it's very common among INFJs, in my experience. My really close INFJ dance partner friend noted to me, "You seem to have a lot of beautiful woman friends." And in a twist that is entirely alien to me, she had to add, "I hope that doesn't sound too conceited." It took me about a day to realize ... "oh, it would be 'conceited' because SHE is one of my beautiful woman friends." (She's 30, and got carded tonight. The guy ended up looking at the ID, and at her, and back at the ID, and back at her ... you get the idea ... She doesn't even look 30.) This is someone with whom I share a fairly deep bond of friendship, vibing on that Ni. She knows me, she knows I don't think ill of her, she knows that she has my benefit of the doubt ... but she still can't help but doubt herself with me, wondering if she did the right thing, feeling guilty if she decides she didn't do the right thing.

    I kind of feel protective of her because of that. I don't want her feeling that way.

    If you want to know whether someone is INFJ or INTJ, remember that INTJs, like the honey badger, don't give a shit. (Well, we do, but not in the paranoid INFJ way.)
    I think you are right on track. I totally understand where your friend is coming from. If I could change one thing about myself, it would be THAT. I wish I could not give a care. Honestly, it's a horrible pressure to carry around. And we carry it even when we don't want to.

    This has been a hard week for me, but I'm learning to let it go.

    Long term relationships...we are good at them, @rivabecause we can't quit anything without feeling like a failure. That's why we often find ourselves overcommitted. Eventually, we do have to let some things, and some people, in our lives go.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Ene View Post
    I think you are right on track. I totally understand where your friend is coming from. If I could change one thing about myself, it would be THAT. I wish I could not give a care. Honestly, it's a horrible pressure to carry around. And we carry it even when we don't want to.

    This has been a hard week for me, but I'm learning to let it go.

    Long term relationships...we are good at them, @rivabecause we can't quit anything without feeling like a failure. That's why we often find ourselves overcommitted. Eventually, we do have to let some things, and some people, in our lives go.
    INTJs are similar, interestingly enough. I ran across this description of INTJs by an ENTP of all people:

    The INTJ "Mastermind" Personality Type - Personality Hacker : Personality Hacker

    We share the "You're in or you're out" vibe. There's no "in-between."
    An argument is two people sharing their ignorance.

    A discussion is two people sharing their understanding, even when they disagree.
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