Note: i put this here because I want only NF input on this. I recognise that other types might have something valuable to say and Im willing to create a public thread if there is enough interest in the topic. I also recognise that especially SFs can probably relate, but I've found the difference in execution and satisfying ways to cope are generally quite different, hence the limitation to NFs. I hope that that's ok.
How do you guys deal with being overloaded? I love helping out people when I can, and having them reach out to me, and hell, I even keep an eye out for people in pain if I have an excess of energy still. It gives me utter satisfaction to be able to help lift someone up so they can thrive, but how and where do you draw the line between self-preservation and compassion?
I find that when I get overloaded, I get resentful, tired, evasive and I ...can't stop myself. At the same time, it isn't nearly as dramatic as what has happened to those people so it seems...I dunno. It seems selfish and petulant to pull out in exhaustion instead of power through when they have actual real issues going on and are at their most vulnerable - and are counting on your support which you did pledge.
Where do you find the energy to keep going or how do you take a break without undoing all the work you've put in and potentially even pushing the other person into a deeper hole if they perceive your need for a break as a personal rejection or abandonment? And, @NFJs in particular - how do you manage your emotional reserves when it isn't a sprint but a marathon - aka, when the person needs support for longer periods of time instead of just some cheerleading?
Are we truly candy dispensers, as @LadyJaye stated? And how do you keep your dispenser stocked?