I don't know if this is related to being NF or not, but I've thought about it and in a way I probably am boring. I tend to deflate drama, the people who have lived with me can verify that I don't argue. I've been told I am less conflict oriented than anyone else close friends of mine have met, and I will tend to stay friends with someone (especially a close friend or family) even after they rage at me or do something really unexpected (although i really prefer they don't). I like things simple with interrelationships because I know how complicated people are inside. I feel close and detached at the same time.
The downside to this is that I don't elicit as much emotional response as someone who is moody or distant in a way that suggests rejection and acceptance in a natural ebb and flow. My natural state is not one in which I stir anyone up, so in some relationships that can be unchallenging to the point of boredom. I think some friendships need a little uncertainty or shifts in moods to shakes things up and keep things alive, but I am not able to function that way.
The first man to raise a fist is the man who's run out of ideas. H.G. WELLS
The first principle is that you must not fool yourself, and you are the easiest person to fool. FEYNMAN If this is monkey pee, you're on your own.SCULLY
haha...uh...no ...i don't know about anybody else but i can have fun anywhere...anytime...all by my lil self if i have to...traffic...f*ck it lets dance
the sj's i know are way more boring... imo...they're just wound so tight
There can’t be any large-scale revolution until there’s a personal revolution, on an individual level. It’s got to happen inside first.
In discussing non-INTPs over at that other board, one poster commented that he found NFs kind of dull.
I can see why this statement is made, some NFs will never do anything that rocks the boat or take a controversial position to avoid offending others.
I don't agree with this, I find other aspects of NFs very interesting.
But I wonder, do you view yourself as boring? Non-NFs, do you find NFs boring?
I'm boring. I even bore myself.
Freude, schöner Götterfunken Tochter aus Elysium, Wir betreten feuertrunken, Himmlische, dein Heiligtum! Deine Zauber binden wieder Was die Mode streng geteilt; Alle Menschen werden Brüder, Wo dein sanfter Flügel weilt.
I am similar to Haight with this, in that "boring" = "predictable." The people who make me laugh the most are the ones who surprise me.
Also, I get a real thrill when I see someone acting most like "themselves" -- when someone does something that seems more "them" or indicative of their personality or character. (The notion of being "true to oneself"?) I guess another way to say it is authenticity: When someone is authentic, I don't find them boring at all.
In any case, I really cannot categorize a whole group of people as boring. Each individual is different, regardless of general type, and I take each one on his or her own terms.
Very well said, as usual.
I consider myself to be neither bored nor boring. While a deep emotional conflict with a loved one can make me physically ill, I have no problem with controversial discussions and can even wax quite passionate on certain topics. People I respect aren't so fragile they can't take my disagreeing with them.
It's a blessing...and a curse.
Originally Posted by Anja
I don't have room for shame in my life.
I've only been bored, really painfully, once in the last twenty or so years. That was an obligatory insurance sponsored two night class on auto safety. Oh lord.
Always have something interesting going on.
In my book it is people who mope around saying they're bored that are boring!
"No ray of sunshine is ever lost, but the green which it awakes into existence needs time to sprout, and it is not always granted to the sower to see the harvest. All work that is worth anything is done in faith." - Albert Schweitzer
I'm possibly an INFJ, and I think I'm personally somewhat boring. I don't think NFs in general are necessarily boring, but I do have to admit that NTs seem to try and hoard a lot of the more interesting topics to themselves and leave everyone else with the boring, creepy stuff.
Considering what's left in imagination after the NTs have picked over it, you could hardly blame NFs if they were a little boring.