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    wants an "us against the world" dynamic, to be very close,
    SX?

    Now that you mentioned it, it does seem like a good way to develop an intimate connection.
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    Quote Originally Posted by riva View Post
    SX?
    Might be a 4 thing in general ... to want someone who is perfect just for you and all your many failings. Your own sacred space manifested in another person who loves you as you do them.

    EDIT: Or an INFP thing. Or an sx thing. Or a person thing. I don't know.
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    @Southern Kross

    If you need a LONG list
    of what an INFP wants

    Who you gonna call?
    Orangeappled!

    If you're feeling something weird
    and you don't know what it is

    Who you gonna call?
    Orangeappled!

    She ain't afraid of no Ti
    She ain't afraid of no Fe
    She ain't afraid of no Ni







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    Quote Originally Posted by Arcana View Post
    Might be a 4 thing in general ... to want someone who is perfect just for you and all your many failings. Your own sacred space manifested in another person who loves you as you do them.

    EDIT: Or an INFP thing. Or an sx thing. Or a person thing. I don't know.
    What you lack or what you are?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Standing Here View Post
    What kind of a partner does an INFP female want? In short bullet points, and without physical attributes pls...
    I was thinking about how to answer this. I was married at 21 and I've been married for 26 years. Some of the things I once thought important, not so much now. Other attributes however stand the test of time. They are:

    - a strong value system that is lived and not only spoken
    - high integrity
    - a sense of humor, someone who can make me laugh everyday
    - physical chemistry
    - loyal, supportive, compassionate and dedicated to the life path we both share

    I'm fortunate to be with a man who still loves me even though I am fallible and imperfect compared to the vision I have of myself.

    eta: I guess I look at my relationship in terms of how I can be for him, rather than how he is or what he does for me? Being loving to him is not contingent on him meeting a list of my expectations. But those listed above would still be attributes I am drawn to in a man.

    eta2: and there are things about him that are good for me even though they aren't on my list of what I look for. Maybe I'll write that up later.

    Quote Originally Posted by chubber View Post
    How do you INFPs deal with touch? Example: Physical affection.
    With a partner, I enjoy the sense of contact, especially random unexpected hugs or hand-holding. Loving touch that takes me by surprise is always nice.
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    Quote Originally Posted by chubber View Post
    How do you INFPs deal with touch? Example: Physical affection.
    *insert standard "Maybe I'm not really an INFP" disclaimer here*

    I'm very selective about who I engage with physically, but the people I'm physically affectionate with, I'M ALL OVER. I love hugging and cuddling and kissing, I give lots of spontaneous back rubs and foot rubs and head massages and stuff because I like touching people, I like holding hands, if I'm in a restaurant I'm probably gonna want to to scooch over to the other person's side so I can touch them, and oh, I like touching people's hair, too. It's easiest for me to show physical affection, words may come out wrong but my hugs are world class, haha.

    This is all limited to some family, some friends and boyfriends, of course.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Arcana View Post
    Might be a 4 thing in general ... to want someone who is perfect just for you and all your many failings. Your own sacred space manifested in another person who loves you as you do them.

    EDIT: Or an INFP thing. Or an sx thing. Or a person thing. I don't know.
    @rep -

    What i meant to ask was whether this person has to have qualities that you lack or similar to you?

    A very simple example to the above question would be, when you say 'i don't want to go to xyz today' what you want your deal lover to reply as, whether it is: 'me neither' or 'lets go cus i am here too/okay i'll take care of it?'
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    @riva, I can relate to what @Arcana wrote, and this quote from Andrew Boyd is exactly it

    “We’re all seeking that special person who is right for us. But if you’ve been through enough relationships, you begin to suspect there’s no right person, just different flavors of wrong. Why is this? Because you yourself are wrong in some way, and you seek out partners who are wrong in some complementary way. But it takes a lot of living to grow fully into your own wrongness. And it isn’t until you finally run up against your deepest demons, your unsolvable problems - the ones that make you truly who you are - that we’re ready to find a lifelong mate. Only then do you finally know what you’re looking for. You’re looking for the wrong person. But not just any wrong person: the right wrong person - someone you lovingly gaze upon and think, “This is the problem I want to have.”

    I will find that special person who is wrong for me in just the right way.
    Let our scars fall in love.”
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    Quote Originally Posted by riva View Post
    @Southern Kross

    If you need a LONG list
    of what an INFP wants

    Who you gonna call?
    Orangeappled!

    If you're feeling something weird
    and you don't know what it is

    Who you gonna call?
    Orangeappled!

    She ain't afraid of no Ti
    She ain't afraid of no Fe
    She ain't afraid of no Ni









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    Quote Originally Posted by chubber View Post
    How do you INFPs deal with touch? Example: Physical affection.
    I'm not physically affectionate, I don't desire it but do reciprocate out of politeness. It does take me a while to warm up to someone. I also don't appreciate people invading my personal space but public transport has made me less... stringent. I prefer affection in words and feelings and I think that warmth gives people an impression that I'm comfortable with touch however I'm quite cold in the area.

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