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    Do you like to think objectively?

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    How traditional can INFPs get?

    How important is family structure to INFPs?

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    Quote Originally Posted by chubber View Post
    How traditional can INFPs get?

    How important is family structure to INFPs?

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    I'm personally very traditional when it comes to things like valuing committed monogamy. Not in the sense that I think everyone should live like this because it's not up to me to decide that, but in the sense that I personally find a committed monogamous relationship ideal.

    Also, I would eventually like to have lots of kids. I guess that's sort of traditional.

    Do you like to think objectively?
    I do value logic. In fact, I enjoy reading and learning about various types of logical fallacies.

    But logic needs to be used with wisdom, like everything.

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    Quote Originally Posted by chubber View Post
    How traditional can INFPs get?
    I don't know enough INFPs to say. I think you get quite a spectrum, but even the most traditional have an offbeat twist of some kind.

    Personally speaking, my default state is semi-traditional and then I find myself asking why the hell I'm doing things that way at all. It's boring and doesn't reflect me much, so I'm usually moving away from its various manifestations, even if only in small ways. I can feel the need to deliberately do things differently just so I don't feel boxed in. Even so I like to keep some things the same way for the sake of sentimentality.

    How important is family structure to INFPs?
    Again, I don't know many INFPs to speak for all of them. Family structure is important to me because that is what I grew up with.

    These are very general questions that are hard to answer. I'm not sure I'm even interpreting the words in the way they were meant.
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    Quote Originally Posted by chubber View Post
    Do you like to think objectively?
    Yes. I am especially fond of analytical breakdown and comparison. However, like @Sultan of Beans voiced, I try to use objectivity wisely. I easily acknowledge that my thinking skills are more honed in the subjective realms, because that's what I tend to focus on and care about more, but objectivity is a tool that often helps me.

    Quote Originally Posted by chubber View Post
    How traditional can INFPs get?
    Probably some could get very traditional, but the determining factor would probably be whether or not the tradition is seen as being in line with the INFP's values or not. If the tradition never crosses a problematic line, they may well keep on with it or even augment it. If it does cross a line, the INFP will probably either change it to make it more aligned with their values or reject it all together.

    Personally I especially love holiday traditions with their focus on family, relaxation, appreciation, enjoyment, and decorating so that everywhere feels festive. I appreciate a lot of traditions just for the little bit of variation they provide - like casual Fridays at work. I've also established some traditions of my own. What I mean by changing the traditions to meet one's own values - like I was raised Catholic, and I don't believe most Catholic beliefs, but on Halloween night and All Saints' Day I'll still light a candle and say a few words and spend some time thinking about those I loved who have passed on, because I think it's a good idea to have a day for remembrance of them.

    How important is family structure to INFPs?
    I can't speak for the group on this one either, and I'm not entirely sure what you mean. For myself, I eventually would like to have a husband and kids, the standard hetero 2-parent model. I had a very happy childhood with my own family being of that model, and my boyfriend did too, so if we end up getting married and having kids I know both of us would like to recreate that. But who knows, maybe that won't happen. Maybe my current relationship won't work out and I'll fall in love with a woman, or maybe I'll decide to be single and adopt a child. I'm not closed to any possibility.

    I think I don't really care about family model. I care that the parent feels like they have enough time, energy, and resources to both provide for their kids and to take care of themselves, so I lean towards 2-parent families being preferable, but that's often just not possible. And if one parent feels like they're happy raising a child on their own, then more power to them. I care that the kids have supportive people they can learn from and lean on. The specific structure itself doesn't matter to me as long as everyone's happy and healthy.

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    Quote Originally Posted by chubber View Post
    How traditional can INFPs get?

    How important is family structure to INFPs?

    @OrangeAppled
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    I've been raised in a traditional family structure, though my siblings and I picked up on both traditional and 'modern' ideals as we grew up.

    I personally value a committed, monogamous relationship, along with a family structure where morals regarding basic human rights are taught. I also feel that spouses should treat each other as equals, supporting each other and tuning in to each other's needs. Both can earn for the family as well, and still be able to raise their children - it might not be easy at first, but it's totally possible.

    And while I may teach my future kids about the importance of education and spirituality (in general that is, regardless of religion), it doesn't matter to me what religious/non-religious preferences they may have, as long as they're ultimately true to themselves and their beliefs.

    Hmm... as for things like family get-togethers and holiday celebrations, I'm not such a biggie on that, and will usually celebrate holidays with just my immediate family in our humble abode. But if we ever have guests come over, I'll be as hospitable as I can towards them.

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    Hi!

    Help me understand youuu! Do you guys agree or disagree with this statement? If you agree, would you change something or you think it's pretty spot on?

    I feel generally good about all people, but am afraid they could let me down. I don't necessarily like people more as I get closer to them, I just trust them better and feel more secure with them. I usually don't even know I dislike people until they've let me down or done something that hurt/offended me. It catches me by surprise a lot of the time. I'll have thought, or wanted to believe that they were better than that.

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    where?
    In no likes experiment.

    that is all

    i dunno what else to say so

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    Quote Originally Posted by unsomething View Post
    Hi!

    Help me understand youuu! Do you guys agree or disagree with this statement? If you agree, would you change something or you think it's pretty spot on?

    I feel generally good about all people, but am afraid they could let me down. I don't necessarily like people more as I get closer to them, I just trust them better and feel more secure with them. I usually don't even know I dislike people until they've let me down or done something that hurt/offended me. It catches me by surprise a lot of the time. I'll have thought, or wanted to believe that they were better than that.
    Nah, I can't really relate to this. I'd say I love and appreciate humanity as a whole, but I tend to be pretty judgemental of individuals and don't approve of a lot of people from the beginning. I'm more pleasantly surprised if someone is a good person.
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    Quote Originally Posted by chickpea View Post
    Nah, I can't really relate to this. I'd say I love and appreciate humanity as a whole, but I tend to be pretty judgemental of individuals and don't approve of a lot of people from the beginning. I'm more pleasantly surprised if someone is a good person.
    Uh huh uh huh. I see. Are there types of people you immediately recognize as preferable? What's it like with those people, like what makes you really realize, oh, this person is awesome?

    Also do you mean good as in a decent person or good as in someone you like/are those interchangeable?

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