I wanted to ask advice from you ENFP's
Basically I have this ENFP friend (I suspect she is 7w6 sx/so) who is perpetually dissatisfied with what she has in the present. Every guy she dates seriously, she loves a lot and would never actively cheat on them. That being said, when she IS committed to one person, she always feels like she is missing out on some sort of passionate romp with a Spanish painter who spends all his time humping and self-actualizing.
So she never feels truly present to the relationship, and then she feels super guilty, because she really cares about her boyfriend, but she's always thinking: "is this IT?" By the same token she really wants to be in a mature, committed relationship, she's always dating these 9ish, very steady, very easygoing guys. And short-term, shallow, sex-oriented relationships do nothing for her.
Anyway, she's going away to Nepal, and whenever she gets ready for trips, she starts thinking about all the issues she wants to get perspective on once she is actually travelling (she is constantly travelling/journalling/rubbing her meditation rocks, all that junk), and she's frustrated with her inability to just be in the moment and be happy with what she is, what she has, who she's with, in the moment.
When I saw her today she was all in a tizzy, she's not sleeping well, and she's asking me for advice. Unfortunately, I've never really had a healthy relationship with a woman, so I'm not really in a position to give advice in that department (I'm actually trying get over HER, but that's a whole other story). I did my best, but I feel like I didn't help her much, aside from the active listening junk. Because REALLY, I think she should stay with this guy, they're really good together, even if he's a bit rough around the edges. It's just that she wants her relationship to be poetry, and she's disappointed that it's prose.
It struck me as a very ENFP problem (especially ENFP 7's), so I was wondering if any of you guys can relate to that? And if so, have you grown/gotten past that? Are any of you in relatively happy and stable relationships? What kind of advice would YOU guys give your ENFP sister?
Also, it might not be a type thing at all, so anyone else who has had similar problems feel free to chime in.
Edit: if this needs to be put in personal threads, I apologize. I'm not opposed to this discussion taking on a more general, abstract turn. Just use my op as a starting point.