I had this guy I was totally crazy about for the longest time, an INFJ. He isn't from the US (is a Swede), had some complicated stuff going on (will I stay in the US/won't I?), and I just gave up on the situation after two + years of struggle. Never stopped thinking about him though, for 11 years (now he's 37 and I'm 42). We just reconnected via e-mail and have been writing/IMing and he is now 100x more communicative than he ever was before. He remembers everything about what happened between us--dates, what the weather, so much--as if it happened a day ago. This was someone who withheld so much from me about what he was thinking back then and now is communicating so directly about what was really going on. Throwing me for a bit of a loop. How do INFJ's experience relationships? I'm an ENFJ. Can we be a good fit? Would an INFJ hang on to a regret for that long? Describes himself as having contempt for how he behaved with me. Now we're talking about his coming to the States to visit. He has the potential to move back--reconnect with old colleagues. Does this sound like an INFJ? I realize that he was just 26 then and people can mature, but is this also an INFJ thing? We have sent each other current pics, so no surprises on that front--still as attracted to him as I ever was. He's very easy to talk with, was just so withholding emotionally back then. Just doesn't seem to be at all that now.