I got this INFJ whom I like, and whom I have an an inkling likes me back.
But we're not (really) talking about that.
R is very cool, freakishly smart, and has a big heart; an all-around nice guy who is well-liked and respected by everyone he knows. Perfect grades when at school, and is now in the earlier stages of a promising career.
We met early this year through mutual friends and became fast friends. We've gone out several times and usually end up just shooting the shit and having a great time talking about everything and nothing. I smoke like a chimney and appreciate my liquor and he, on the other hand, is a strict teetotaler and non-smoker, so he'll usually have a club soda when we go out. Now, I have some concerns. The past two months though, he's often bummed a ciggie or two off of me when we're out on the town. It started off with him wanting to see what was the draw and, recently, he's been almost keeping up with me. He's now buying his own cigarettes and smoking at home. This bothers me (hypocritical much, I know) but he laughs off my concerns. Also, the last two times we've been out, he's started off by 'trying out' a cocktail and ended up getting pretty close to drunk. I know that he's 24 and has the choice to do what he wants by why now and why me?! Why is he changing his principles due to my own choices? (I feel like that sleazy dude who dates the pretty, smart girl and 'gets her' addicted to weed, effectively adding no value to her life.) I like him a lot as a person but I just feel really guilty about this, and I'm considering quietly detaching from this friendship. Is this the right thing to do? (for his own sake) Some external perspective on this would be great.