Okay, so I've been reading (here) about how INFJs aren't funny-don't have a sense of humor. I couldn't really relate to that...but tried to.
A couple of days ago an ESFP companion and I were talking...he was relaying what a mutual friend said about something and commented that this mutual friend is "too serious". Thinking on that for a minute, I asked "am I too serious?" He said, "No. You're funny."
...but, I'm supposed to lack humor...according to what I've read here.
So...here's what I've figured out about myself.
If I'm comfortable with a person and relaxed, I can be very funny.
here's where it can get messed up:
I am usually the "listener" in a group. BUT sometimes I have something that is important to share either because 1. it's important to me personally or 2. it's required because of my work, etc. I have a difficulty putting my thoughts and feelings into words. Sometimes I'm not sure there are words to accurately say what it is I am feeling. But even if there are the words, it takes me awhile to form them into sentences. Also, there are so many threads of thought that lead to other threads of thought running through my mind at all times, that the distraction of that makes it extremely difficult to say what it is I need to say. I need to stay focused. The "funny" types like to make side comments to lighten up "speech" and although I do realize what they are saying is funny, I can't stop to acknowledge it because I'll never get back on track. So....as I plow on, it appears that I'm unfunny. The only time this becomes a real problem (I feel annoyed) is when the side comments turn into full-blown heckles.
Maybe some other INFJs (or anyone) can relate to this?