I've been with my SO xNFP (tested both) for a while now.
I have noticed that he is very attuned to what I may or may not need - small things - always asking if I'm okay, etc. I've gotten used to it but 99% of the time - I'm ok! However, there has been once or twice that I've been extremely upset - not something he has done - to the point of holding back tears - a rarity. He seems oblivious to this until I can't hold it in anymore (anger or sadness).
I think I'm being very obvious and transparent and he says he had no idea I was even upset. I feel like every fiber of me is vibrating. So what experience do you have with ISTPs expressing emotion? Is is shocking?