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    Default Weight of the world

    Do you ever just, feel the weight of the world's hurt on your shoulders?
    Like we should be saving the world?
    Like we should be doing something to somehow cure the darkness that is in people's lives?

    I know there's nothing I can do. Really, big picture-wise, there is nothing I can do.

    I can talk my friend out of suicide one night, but that doesn't mean that tomorrow, a month, a year, 5 years from now, they won't feel the same pain they felt then.

    I don't know. Sometimes I just feel it all. It's weight holds me down and depresses me. It hurts me to see people hurting. To think that I could be having a great day, and someone else could be having the worse day of their life.

    Sometimes these emotions cripple me. I should be doing things around my house right now, but instead I'm reading, researching, googling how to help my friends who are hurting. Listening to music that makes me feel the pain that they're feeling.

    I mean, how can people ignore the clouds of other people's lives?

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    I agree with all of that. Supposedly it is the weight of the Fi. But perhaps it is the automatic perspective of all NFs?

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    No, ENFJs (Fe) feel it too, we just feel it a little differently. We try to create harmony and peace in our environments, for ourselves and for everyone around us, we advise others and sometimes we even "butt in" (not as much as the ESFJs, lol); generally we try to be there for people in real ways. We try to save the world. Unfortunately, we fail, time and time again, because as much as we want to save others, people have to want to save themselves. All we can really do is offer kindness, love and practical helps hoping that people will realize that they are in more control over whether their end is neigh then anybody around them.
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    I have a lovely friend like this. She describes it this way: She feels so old because she has gone through a lot, but when she sees other suffering and going through so much she realizes how much of a child she is ...how much she doesn't know and she really wants to understand (she does understand very well, so she is a good listener).

    I could be wrong, but it seems like people like you guys can really get at the heart of what's important for a person... or maybe even all of humanity lol... but seriously...

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    Quote Originally Posted by 2XtremeENFP View Post
    Do you ever just, feel the weight of the world's hurt on your shoulders?
    Like we should be saving the world?
    Like we should be doing something to somehow cure the darkness that is in people's lives?

    I know there's nothing I can do. Really, big picture-wise, there is nothing I can do.

    I can talk my friend out of suicide one night, but that doesn't mean that tomorrow, a month, a year, 5 years from now, they won't feel the same pain they felt then.

    I don't know. Sometimes I just feel it all. It's weight holds me down and depresses me. It hurts me to see people hurting. To think that I could be having a great day, and someone else could be having the worse day of their life.

    Sometimes these emotions cripple me. I should be doing things around my house right now, but instead I'm reading, researching, googling how to help my friends who are hurting. Listening to music that makes me feel the pain that they're feeling.

    I mean, how can people ignore the clouds of other people's lives?
    I care, yet I can only do so much to help people. Ultimately, people are the masters of their destiny. They have the capacities to transform their situation. I cannot force their hand, I can only guide, and lead by example.

    When I feel the weight of the world crushing down on me, I have a great cry, and I look at something funny. There's no point in carrying baggage with me where I'm going.

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    i have major empathy for kids...like my heart physically hurts whenever i witness how kids are treated by most adults. i want so badly to hug them and tell them how beautiful and special they are and make them feel like their thoughts are interesting and worthwhile. ughh...so many people just make them feel like annoyances. it pisses me off greatly.

    but...as a typical 7 i usually shut out most of the sadness in the world...just sort of as a reflex...it's like feeling it is dangerous for me...or something.

    i do get in those moods where i'm very aware of it all and it sucks. i'm glad they're infrequent.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Lady X View Post
    i have major empathy for kids...like my heart physically hurts whenever i witness how kids are treated by most adults.
    Oh god some neighbor of mine yells to his kids like hell, the kids ofc are disobedient and i can hear them yelling "COME EAT" "NO" "COME EAT NOW!" "NO!" "YOU COME EAT NOW!!!!!!!!" "NO!!" and bla bla bla all the time.. It really pisses me off because its the parents who dont know what they are supposed to do that causes the kids to act the way they do, which again infuriates the parents and the vicious circle continues.

    But what comes to weight of the world, you people need to chill. Sure the world is full of shit, but also full of good things. ENFPs are one of the good things in the world, so basically just be existing you are doing a good job . So just do your thing, dont stress and you will be wiping the shit off the world
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    Encourage them to slit their wrists? Tell them you'll post 666 photos of them bleeding out.

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    Yeah, but I try to keep it shut off unless there is something I can actually do about it for sanity's sake. It's why I don't watch the news, especially if there's been a natural disaster or mass killing, etc.
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    What I've learned is the world is full of crap.

    That doesn't mean you need to add to it though.

    Small things do wonders for peoples lives. It may not fix their long-term troubles, but just a smile means a lot. It makes things less crappy.

    When that person chooses to do something about it, that is when you know you did something, however small it was.

    But when a push isn't enough to get the person started, all you can do is wait...

    What that person chooses is ultimately up to him/her.

    That is really all we can do.

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