(I'm very happy about the bolded)
The reason I was trying to get a feel for how…I don't even know what word to use 'surprised?'… ‘baffled?’…you might be when it comes to these sudden yearnings to pick-up & move… was to try and distinguish what is ‘typical ENFP high on life & new experience’ from what is ‘typical ENFP high on life & new experience & enneagram 7.’ Because…while I can’t be certain…I kinda feel like I’m hearing about all of it in your story and there’s definitely a difference (a difference that doesn’t necessarily call into question e3 if that’s something you’re certain of merely because most ENFPs are connected to e7 in some way or another.)It is hard to remember. I know that, compared to the past, I have become much better at moving around. This was my 5th city to move to without a job and I got an offer in 6 days. I wasn't really expecting it but it helped me realize how much a knack I have for landing somewhere new and immediately making things work.
A lot of ENPs will recognize themselves in the bolded sentence above. Few will be at your level of mastery (seriously, the first thing that comes into my mind is 'How To' book). But ‘landing somewhere new and immediately making things work...’? <--That’s Ne heaven man. That’s why Ne exists. And it’s in those moments Ne dom’s get to do exactly what we were born to do. And here is where we shine brightest. Now, a funny thing happens, however, as time goes on…we’ve landed, we’ve immediately made things work…and now comes the point when we’re sorta expected to just keep right on working…and working and working…day in and day out… I’ve noticed it’s at this point haha we start to lose a little of our sparkle as Ne begins to die a slow and painful death. Certainly, there are ENPs all across the planet that deal with the ruts and routines we will undoubtedly face once ‘settled down’…by perpetually creating great things for Ne to do. But there is a breed of ENP (I’m guilty of this)…that doesn’t necessarily take risks with any kind of strategic purpose in mind…but rather deliberately throws themselves into ‘the fire that makes the least sense’ for the excitement of it and an awareness of what can be personally gained by way of knowledge and growth for pushing yourself to do so.
What makes all of the above total-awesomeness into something a little on the ‘e-seveny’ side is when we want to stop and find we cannot. <--I'll keep repeating this...I don't know if this applies...but since the behavior you describe is...basically the #1 most commonly seen e7 behavior manifesting itself from the e7 core issue…I thought I'd at least mention it. Somewhere along the line an individual that is e7 learned to (not) deal with Life’s pain, loss, hardship, etc. by doing a variety of different things to ignore/minimize/not face it in its full-strength entirety. Avoiding negative feelings is most often done by remaining optimistic and on a forward-moving basis towards a better tomorrow. Which, I imagine, is healthy to a certain extent but e7s often unknowingly take it to unhealthy levels when they won’t allow themselves to slow down…when they are constantly distracting themselves from experiencing and addressing painful emotions…by throwing themselves into new experiences. Many e7s will not ‘settle down’ and form attachments for a very specific reason...and their optimism and enthusiasm keeps them a bit oblivious to this fact. Again, I’m not saying you are in fact doing this or are an e7. But if any of it resonates perhaps look into it.
I lived in the Middle East for a while as well…and of all the places I've been...I believe I miss there the most.So, I've changed. A lot. I was in the Middle East at the time of my involvement here last...
I relate to this so much and I think it’s great that you are meditating on it and so kindly reminding me to remain mindful of it haha as well. I mean...it’s not easy for me to put it into words but my experience of the world…the unit is ‘the individual’…me, you, someone else – all individuals. And in this way I often forget how important it is to belong to a community…to work within a group towards a purpose. <--Even just typing that out I was like… ‘did I just use the word important and group in the same sentence?’ (terrible I know) Perhaps it is the case I will only ever experience a sense of being an individual within a group as opposed to a ‘group member’…but I do believe it is an important experience to have. To learn from. And again, thank you for reminding me of it.That's a good point! And probably what I am truly meditating on.
I don't think it is the societal norm that is holding me back, I think it is knowing what true community and having deep, in person friendships feel like. It has been a while since I've experienced those things and fully believe those are some of the most joyous things in life. They take time to develop, however, and can be difficult to maintai when moving around constantly.