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    Quote Originally Posted by Zarathustra View Post
    Yet every time this point has ever been raised, the ENFPs cause a shitstorm denying that it's true.





    You are (I believe) confusing two completely separate 'thingies' my friend.


    I don't think you will find a whole lotta resistance from ENFPs if you were to suggest we have a difficult time when it comes to entering into a commitment. This is due to the fact that pre-commitment...*commitment* (to a specific individual or whatever) is still just one of a billion possibilities. We struggle with limiting our options.

    The shitstorm comes when you or some other poor soul suggests that...once committed...we are not constant. And that is just not the case (at least for the majority of us). Once we go through what it takes for us to actually close off all other possibilities in order to have that one reality... We are...and will be...quite dedicated.
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    Quote Originally Posted by skylights View Post
    Lol, probably.

    But I do think there's a sort of unfair/inaccurate connotation that goes along with it, as if the ENFP shouldn't be doing it... I do of course understand the concept of leading on and how it can hurt others, but it also carries some inherent assumption that commitment is the desired outcome, and you're not playing the social game "right" if that's not what you're aiming for. For the most part I think ExFPs just enjoy the "stirring", regardless of its implications for commitment, and that's essentially that, so it feels inauthentic to our experience to link it directly to commitment. I think other people tend to see us playing and assume that we operate similar to them, so if we're displaying high-octane interest then we're permanently interested, but of course with ExFPs it's about getting caught up in the stimuli of the moment, and it very well may not last once the stimulation has subsided. Moving to commitment severely limits the possibility pool, and thereby the stimulation sources, so it's not typically a winning scenario for the ENFP to make that shift unless they are very invested. I don't think it's really "commitment phobia" as much as it is commitment seals off a huge host of options and that's generally quite displeasing to an extraverted perceiver.



    Not mine - someone's notes from Katherine Fauvre's talk on tritypes. I read it on the enneagraminstitute.com forum.





    I figure at the very least sx-last ExFPs are pretty rare.



    I feel like coming full circle is probably the high point of conversation for Ns. It feels like scoring.*



    ^^ love this list. thanks for the share

    I relate most to 974 (& 874, due to a strong 8-wing). "tripe imaginative and triple creative", huh. well thank you. don't mind if I do.
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    Quote Originally Posted by LittleV View Post
    I’d love to find a developed, self-confident male INFJ.
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DD-lfP1FBFk

    an example of a well-developed, mature, self-confident INFJ male
    “If you judge people, you have no time to love them.”

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    Having dated exclusively xNTx (and one ISTJ) my whole life, i was sceptical about the NF dealie.

    But i have to say, the most content and happy and comfortable i have ever been with someone is with my INFP.

    He rocks.

    Terrible things happen to good people every day.
    Consequentially, I am not one of the good people.
    I am one of the terrible things.
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    Quote Originally Posted by justwannabeMe View Post
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DD-lfP1FBFk

    an example of a well-developed, mature, self-confident INFJ male
    Oh, thanks for the thought. He sort of reminds me of a psychology professor I’ve seen around.

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    I would like to bone an INTJ female.

    I don't think I'd like to date one, tho.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Zarathustra View Post
    I would like to bone an INTJ female.

    I don't think I'd like to date one, tho.
    I basically feel the same way about INFPs.

    Yeah. It's as simple as that.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Nijntje View Post
    Having dated exclusively xNTx (and one ISTJ) my whole life, i was sceptical about the NF dealie.

    But i have to say, the most content and happy and comfortable i have ever been with someone is with my INFP.

    He rocks.
    Since I'm an INFP, am I allowed to fap to your avatar?

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    I think i could work with an introverted nf but not another enfp, that would feel like incest somehow, cheating even. That thread re: sexing your clone. (Though i voted yes for the novelty.) *Slinks away*
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    Quote Originally Posted by Ginkgo View Post
    Since I'm an INFP, am I allowed to fap to your avatar?
    I'd fap to my avatar.

    Terrible things happen to good people every day.
    Consequentially, I am not one of the good people.
    I am one of the terrible things.
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