I'm not sure I'm 'asking' that correctly.
However, I notice that I seem to do much better as a person when I have someone to 'care' for....or look after. It keeps me inspired and rising above the fray.
I'm not sure if its an ugly form of co-dependency or what.
I also notice when I don't receive it in return...it starts to wear on me....I've always been the 'leader' in everything I do socially, as well as professionally....the 'go to guy'....
...but to be frank, its worn me out. I feel ...well.....used.