I don't know if this has been done before, if yes and in a lot of detail, link me, please.
I have noticed that I am somewhere between my SP friends and SJ friends in regards to dating. My ISFJ and ESFJ friends only consider serious dating. They never do flings and they don't date around a lot. When they get involved, they mean business. This honestly freaks me out because not every time I get involved, I consider the relationship to be long-term material or marriage. But I'm not as carefree as my SP friends who are okay with short-term involvements because they are fun and you learn a lot, etc. I consider myself somewhere between the two and I think other NFs might agree with me. We want to deeply emotionally bond, we want relationships to be sincere and authentic, but we also like our options and our freedom and our experiences. So, my question is, how should we best approach dating?
One advice that I have read somewhere is taking it very slow, get to know the other person before thinking about a serious commitment, think about what you want, listen to what they want... In the past, I have gone really fast and this hasn't gone well. But I enjoy the fast pace sometimes because well, it's fun. Though...not ideal because it tends to blow up in your face sometime in the near near future. How should we combine these two things that we want from dating? I'm talking about more serious dating. Casual dating isn't much of anything, is it? When I take the time to get to know someone, spend time with them and we have fun together, I am emotionally attached. I don't think it's a bad thing. I think it makes dating enjoyable, but yet if it doesn't work it, it's quite hurtful sometimes.
Right now, I'm taking time off from guys to think about what I want and I think these questions will bother me until I figure it out a little bit more. Any advice and insight welcomed!