That is an amazing story @entropie
And I think we are on the same page: to thy own self be true
As a fellow NFP though, I do look to others - for inspiration. I 'll try on their behaviors, once I see the reasoning for them using it and see if they work for me. I'll toss out what does not fit me and tailor the rest to my needs. It is how I grow. It is how I use Ne. And along the way, I discover my own style. And I think that Ne can do the same for INFPs in this case.
You are right though. NFPs should never lose themselves in others. They should stay true to and proud of who they are.