User Tag List

Page 3 of 3 FirstFirst 123
Results 21 to 22 of 22

Thread: INFJ's and saving people

  1. #21
    failure to thrive Array AphroditeGoneAwry's Avatar
    Join Date
    Feb 2009
    451 sx/so
    ENFj Ni


    Quote Originally Posted by Elocute View Post

    I don't really think you can be hybridic because it would alter your aux/tert quite severely, which would change both your perception and judgement of the world. A lot of INFJs type as INTs due to their logic fixations and aptitude, but I believe this to be more due to Ni/Ti, just as INTJs can be quite internally emotional but seldom show it (Fi)--hence their 'robot' stereotype.

    Not really. I test higher on Te than Fe actually, in one of my books. And that has been consistent with time. It's like I'm a stupid INTJ. I still identify mostly with f because I'm a woman I think.

    And I don't believe in that whole tert is aligned in the same attitude as the dom claptrap. So that fi/ti theory holds no merit with me. Or very little.
    4w5 5w4 1w9
    ~Torah observant, Christ inspired~
    Life Path 11

    The more one loves God, the more it is that having nothing in the world means everything, and the less one loves God, the more it is that having everything in the world means nothing.

    Do not resist an evil person, but to him who strikes you on the one cheek, offer also the other. ~Matthew 5:39

  2. #22
    Junior Member Array
    Join Date
    Jan 2013


    fidelia highlights an important point:

    INFJs put others at ease and attract the downtrodden and the outcasts, despite not always wanting to be in this role. I certainly have seen people (myself included) cross over INFJ boundaries because the INFJ seems more welcoming and open than they really feel. It then may not always be a quest to save other people, but at times it is other people looking to be saved or loved. This is an important distinction and one oft-overlooked.

    I think this is a source of negativity aimed at INFJs, since it is the source of hurt feelings and feelings of betrayal. INFJs give so much of themselves that it is almost expected that they continue. When they create boundaries to protect themselves, people get angry. People will then lash out with accusations of selfishness, malice, and manipulation.

    Also, I still don't think it is about an INFJ wanting to be saved themselves. While this may be true for some individuals, I don't think it is indicative of all or even most. My INFJ ex often neglected himself to care for others and I think he individually was harmed, however, he certainly wouldn't have wanted to be saved. He didn't need to be saved, however, I think he did need help at times. However, he was far too independent to be saved and he enjoyed self-help and self-healing. There were many times where I offered to give help or insight and he would say he wanted to think it over on his own. This process can be quite frustrating for non-INFJs because of the lack of transparency (it was often the case that he would come back with an entirely new perspective).

    This, of course, isn't to say that any sort of saving behavior is solely INFJ. However, the functions of the INFJ endear them to these sorts of qualities in a way different from other types.
    "Never think one can turn over any old falsehood without a terrible squirming of the horrid little population that dwells under it." - Someone Brilliant

Similar Threads

  1. [INFJ] INFJs - anger and upset?
    By Eileen in forum The NF Idyllic (ENFP, INFP, ENFJ, INFJ)
    Replies: 70
    Last Post: 05-06-2015, 09:28 AM
  2. [INFJ] INFJ's and excess sociability
    By Zeno in forum The NF Idyllic (ENFP, INFP, ENFJ, INFJ)
    Replies: 21
    Last Post: 09-19-2012, 09:58 PM
  3. [INFJ] INFJs and odd people
    By fidelia in forum The NF Idyllic (ENFP, INFP, ENFJ, INFJ)
    Replies: 41
    Last Post: 07-25-2009, 06:33 PM
  4. Replies: 42
    Last Post: 09-12-2008, 08:03 AM
  5. [MBTItm] Possible explination of INFJ's and Ni at their worst.
    By Athenian200 in forum The NF Idyllic (ENFP, INFP, ENFJ, INFJ)
    Replies: 20
    Last Post: 01-13-2008, 01:23 PM

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts