I wanted to seek communication advice on affirmation or letting people know that you heard what they just said.
I spent the holidays hanging out with an older enfj. We got along really well (thanks to the many Fe lessons I have learned from FJs), but she made an indirect comment toward the end of the visit about someone else not being very good at letting other people know what they had been heard, which I took as an indirect suggestion that I needed to be better at this.
Here, the occasional ENFJ and some INFJs also comment on not feeling they were acknowledged or affirmed during threads on the forum.
It seems it might be the part of active listening where you restate what the person just said back to them in thier own words?? But there also seems to be an element of praise to it sometimes? Occasionally, even praise that is a bit exaggerated, relative to the other person's actual accomplishments?? Sort of an odd ego-stroking?
Any guidance on this topic would be appreciated,as if this helps my FJ/TP friends feel more comfortable, I'd like to understand how to do a better job meeting thier needs if possible.
(I note this as Fe affirmation as I think Fi has it's own flavor of affirmation which does different things altogether-I suspect most folks can use both tools to some extenet of course.)