I've been in a relationship with an ENFJ for 2 month and half now. We are great together, but in these two months we've been through a lot of stuff, good and bad, and it feels like we are together for far too long. Everything with us two is very intense, neutral moments are rare: or we are super okay with each other (great part of the time) or we start to argue for endless hours.
Our fights are 90% of the time initiated by her. She is very motivated, determined, perseverant, assertive, bossy and demanding; very clear in what she wants, and, when I don't match with her desires, it normally gets problematic. She begins a huge drama and always makes herself of a victim. We already had problems with my procrastination, lack of structure and lack of assertiveness. Our argues are long, but normally ends well with one of us making an apology. But these are really exhausting and if possible I wanted to make them rare. What should I do? We are so great when we are okay, and the whole Fe x Fi contact is really unique, but these fights are really tiring, and I want you guys to tell me what should I do...
I'm an ENFP which is most of the time a lot more like an INFP, by the way.
If any ENFP here already had a relationship with another ENFJ, I'd love to hear what it was like. I'd like to hear the other side of the story as well, ENFJs telling me their experiences with ENFPs. Anything ENFJ x ENFP relationship related would be awesome!
Thank you by advance!