See, years ago, I did throw a cup of coffee and broke it, because I was so overwhelmed and stressed with financial woes and I lived with an ISTJ who constantly fretted over said woes. So one day I threw a cup of coffee at him because I just wanted to make the noise stop for a little while, but then I was out a perfectly good mug and had to scrub all of that coffee off my white wall....I thought, "How stupid of me" and I began to think of emotions like a horse. You can either put a bridle in the horse's mouth and train it to go in the direction you want it to go or you can let the horse run wild, buck you off, trample you and drag you through the mud. Emotions are to serve us, not the other way around. They are our tools, our gifts, not our masters. So, no door slamming for me [I did that once shortly before I threw the coffee mug], no more throwing things for me. We are endowed with a wisdom mind and an emotional mind. A wisdom mind can still operate with compassion and empathy, BUT it doesn't have to wallow in self-pity and it has the capacity to balance emotion with logic. It makes for a happier person, at least I think so. So, I'm just saying, being an INFJ doesn't mean you slam doors. I think that no matter what type we are, we must remember that there is both a healthy and an unhealthy state of being for any type and we should be careful not to pigeon-hole and stereo-type based on what we think. I love your saying by the way, "Where wisdom reigns, htere is no conflict between thinking and feeling." Jung. I totally agree and I guess that's what I 'm really saying. INFJ does not always equal doorslams. It can, but it doesn't have to.
Well, enough rambling from me. Let's hear what someone else has to say!