Recently my ENFJ female friend has a new boyfriend. She told me she was bothered by the fact that he (my guess an INTJ) doesn't tell her every now and then, that he loves her. I quote "I want him often to say that he loves me unlimited".
So I asked her if he did hug her. He did that. A lot.
Looks to me as the same, or even better than (just) saying I love you.
Is this a common NF thing? Or general insecurity?