lately ive come to realize somthing about my enfp-ness and why i get quiet.
perhaps this will be true of others as well
When emotionally hurt the enfp~
1.) takes the comment personally through Fi and/or objectivly through Te
2.) this perception of the nature and relativity of the comment is then transfered to the Si function.
3.) after being transfered to the Si function the ENFP then relates this back to Fi. This often rears its ugly head in odd opinions. ex. "I dont like blue" this might be because the person who insulted the ENFP was wearing blue at the time. By association the ENFP can comfort themselves when you wear the color blue because blue is not pretty to them anymore.
4.) This lasts for a good 20 minuets (as most things do with the ENFP) and they pop that into Te and they realize they like the color blue, all relations aside.
5.) Now the ENFP has realized that the more you talk to them, the more ridiculous things they dislike.
6.) The ENFP subconciously concludes that you are hurting them and they turn off the charming qualitys they once had and turn on the quiet.
7.) They subconciously stratigize to bore you untill you are absent from their emotional grounds.
8.) Then with 100% accuracy a flying red high heel wearing monk falls from the sky and screams to the people of south-west asia "......."
P.s. feel free to add to this your personal explanations for quietness