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    Quote Originally Posted by alicia91 View Post
    Yeah, she's all those things. Yet she has this side of her that I'm not sure fits in - she can be incredibly dismissive/cold when she perceives that someone has done her wrong or done a friend wrong (even if it's not a big deal). So IMO there is a lot of 'drama' around her. She recently dumped one of her best friends over something fairly trivial (at least to my mind) and because my daughter is the unofficial leader of the group, I'm afraid that this other girl lost most of her friends. Well, they are in highschool and it's none of my business but when I was her age I was definately more easy going about other people. On the exterior, however my daughter is open-minded, casual, and has a slightly 'alternative' vibe. She's also begging for piercings and a tattoo. :steam:
    If it's any help, my ENFP best friend dropped one of our close friends because the friend didn't return an "important" phone call. When a close friend of the girl she dropped died, she didn't even give her a call to give sympathy. I found that extremely puzzling (and also a bit rude) but my ENFP best friend still feels as though our friend wronged her and refuses to budge.

    I'm guessing it's a Fi thing because both my INFP cousin & brother do the same exact thing.

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    Both ENFJs and ENFPs are a little messed up in the head. I'll put my hotdog in either one of them.

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    Quote Originally Posted by alicia91 View Post

    P - likes her time unstructured (yet still manages to get it all done when it needs to be - schoolwork)
    - her room = complete disaster
    - hates routines and often plays before working
    - not really goal oriented

    J - likes to finish projects
    - in the end she is always prepared, never forgets to do homework,
    I guess she could be an ENFP. Though she seems better at getting things done and over with than me

    To things you wrote kind of reminded me of myself in that age. When I was 13-14 of age I would interact much more with my friends parents than anyone else on my age. Most of the adults would know me as that odd kid with an endless stream of strange questions, ideas, and suggestions.

    Also, the freezing people out when they pissed me off was something I would do on occasion. I would simply decide to write off that particular person and arrange my life to have no contact with or dependence on him/her. In some cases it could be quite a lot of trouble, but I was insanely stubborn on that point.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BlueWing View Post
    ENFP is a dominant Extroverted Perceiving type. ENFJ is a dominant Extroverted Judging type. The latter is very systematic about dealings with the external world, and the former is very unstructured.

    The ENFP is an Introverted Judging type. Personal values are based on subjective factors. Strictly speaking, it is about what matters to the individual. ENFJ is a dominant Extroverted Judging (again), values primarily orient around the objective factor, in most cases what is valued and what is beneficial for society.
    Mmm. That's pretty vague. As I grow I become more aware of how blurry lines can be. I'd say that instead of "social environment" instead of society. And even then, ENFJ's and ENFP's realize that they aren't seperate from their social environment, so it's entirely possible that self-benefit is seen as equally important to social benefit, though for me at least, that's always an intense battle.
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    Quote Originally Posted by quietgirl View Post
    If it's any help, my ENFP best friend dropped one of our close friends because the friend didn't return an "important" phone call. When a close friend of the girl she dropped died, she didn't even give her a call to give sympathy. I found that extremely puzzling (and also a bit rude) but my ENFP best friend still feels as though our friend wronged her and refuses to budge.

    I'm guessing it's a Fi thing because both my INFP cousin & brother do the same exact thing.
    Your friend sure is an asshole. Tell her I said that!

    I would be so miserable if that happened with me. Just sitting around thinking about "What if I hadn't defriended her? Maybe she'd still be alive!" Even if she hadn't gotten into drugs and gone down a bad path the flow of events would've still be different if she hadn't defriended her.

    Absolutely terrible...

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    Chris, if I understand correctly, it wasn't the ENFP's ex-friend that died, it was a friend of the ex-friend. And she wouldn't call the ex-friend to offer sympathy.

    But in regards to that, yes. I'll give them plenty of chances, but if they cross that line, I will treat them very coldly.
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    LOL! That's J Jumping to conclusions about what the poster said! Well, technically Fe...

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    Quote Originally Posted by arcticangel02 View Post
    Chris, if I understand correctly, it wasn't the ENFP's ex-friend that died, it was a friend of the ex-friend. And she wouldn't call the ex-friend to offer sympathy.

    But in regards to that, yes. I'll give them plenty of chances, but if they cross that line, I will treat them very coldly.
    I do that as well, typically in romantic relationships. However, I've noticed that my plenty of chances go unnoticed by the recipient and they act like they were without warning from me. Which I think is odd since I'm pretty expressive and clear, so I'm not sure if it is my nice nature of delivering 'warnings' or what.
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    From what I've seen of the two types, ENFPs are more focused on being awesome, and ENFJs on making other people awesome.
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    Quote Originally Posted by arcticangel02 View Post
    Yes, I have a tendency to think an ENFJ would slot into the 'unofficial leader of her group' role easier than an ENFP.

    ENFPs have a tendency to be there sometimes, and be absent other times. We're not consistent enough. :P

    Exactly!

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