Ya, Te is the 4th position though, I'd say that by our early twenties we just start to get a bit more aware of it. At 45, it's still terrain that I'm deepening my understanding of too. And I can still be very rigid in a Te way about trying to be organized etc - it's such an obvious blind spot that it's easy to overcompensate (as I do) or ignore it (as others do).Wait a minute, I thought you guys were Te users. Even though Ti is my tertiary function, I still think that I feel fairly familiar around it and so I assumed that it was the same for you.
Your color analogy is great actually. I was just talking to my husband tonight about this thread in the same kinds of terms. But what if you were blind, could never see any colors? It's like we have to have another way to try to communicate, but it will never actually transfer the full essence. I suppose that's simply an element of the human condition though - we are all ultimately alone in the way we see the world.I don't question at all what people are feeling or their right to have feelings about it. It's just that for me feelings are such a transient thing that I can't really even imagine what role they play for you. I mean, I know they get more emphasis, but it's not in any way that I could articulate to anyone else, so it doesn't seem to be of practical use then in my interactions because I don't know how to apply that knowledge. It's like never seeing red and someone describing it to me. At best, I only have a guess of what red is because I don't really have any point of comparison to help define it, categorize it, or utilize it. It's not that I doubt your description or I don't think it's valid. It's just information that I don't know how to translate into useful terms to help my interactions. So when I ask "Why do you feel that way?" It doesn't mean that I'm doubting you should feel that way. I just need some kind of reference point that could help me. Like if I recognized the colour orange, then you could point out the similarities between the two, as well as the differences. (I know it's a lame illustration, but I can't come up with anything better right now). You are starting with something I'm familiar with and then showing how they are different from what you are describing.
There's something about your intuition though that makes me FEEL like you get it, I almost expect that you should get it. That's why I guess I keep trying so hard? That's what puzzles me somewhat, why I expect it should be easier in our communications.